Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

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Question: What advice do you have for fostering/adopting children with autism, particularly those with limited communication skills? How can we best support them in expressing big feelings and feeling safe to do so? What can we do to help them feel they have some control and feel heard when they can't always communicate what they want and have a harder time understanding what's going on?
Resources:
Setting Up Your Child with Autism for Success
Helping Autistic Kids Shine
What Is Pathological Demand Avoidance and How Do I Parent This Child?
Helping Your Child with Autism Thrive
Parent Support Toolkit (Autism Foundation)
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How can storytelling help kids heal? In this episode, we talk to Dr. Sharon Zaffarese-Dippold to explore how story helps children make sense of their experiences, build resilience, and move toward thriving, including simple, everyday ways to begin using it at home. She is a psychotherapist with 27 years of experience in counseling and author of the "Garbage Bag Life" series, which emphasizes her journey through foster care.
In this episode, we discuss:
Can you tell us a little about your own journey and why helping children make sense of their stories became such an important part of your life?
What did you wish the adults around you had understood about what you were carrying as a child?
Why are stories such powerful tools for helping children heal?
What is it about a story that often feels safer than direct conversations, especially for children who have experienced trauma, loss, foster care, adoption, or family disruption?
What happens when children don't have a coherent story about their lives?
What are some of the questions they may silently wrestle with?
Many parents and caregivers are afraid of saying the wrong thing around a child’s story. What do you suggest?
What does it mean when a child moves from "What's wrong with me?" to "What happened to me?"
What are some simple ways parents and caregivers can build storytelling into everyday family life?
Stories can be used for more than understanding a child’s history in adoption, foster care, and relative care. They can also help children recognize their strengths, resilience, and a sense of belonging.
How can parents and caregivers use storytelling to build family identity?
Resources:
How to Talk with Our Kids About the Difficult Parts of Their Stories
How to Make and Use an Adoption Lifebook
Building the Framework for Adopted & Foster Children to Process the Hard Parts of Their Stories
The Healing Power of Storytelling
Suggested Books for Kids:  Adoption, Foster Care, and Kinship Care
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Question: My partner and I parent really differently, especially with our adopted child. I’m more focused on connection and understanding behavior, and my partner is much more strict and consequences-focused. We keep arguing about discipline and routines, and honestly, it’s starting to hurt our relationship too. How do we stop fighting about parenting and work better together?
Resources:
Prioritizing Your Marriage in Adoption, Foster Care, or Kinship Care
When Your Child's Trauma Impacts Your Marriage
Self-Care Isn't Selfish
Related Podcasts:
Strategies for Maintaining a Healthy Marriage or Partnership While Raising Adopted, Foster, or Relative Children
When Parenting Feels Uneven: Helping Your Partner Step In
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Navigating special education can feel overwhelming—but you don’t have to do it alone. In this episode, we’re joined by Paula J. Yost, a licensed clinical mental health therapist, special education advocate, lawyer, educator, and author who breaks down IEPs, 504 plans, evaluations, and how to effectively advocate for your child.
In this episode, we discuss:
What led you to focus on helping families navigate the special education system?
For parents and caregivers who may be feeling overwhelmed, confused, or even intimidated by this process, what would you want them to know right at the beginning?
Is there a preferred or more respectful language we should be using—special education, exceptional children education, or something else?
What are the key laws that govern special education in the United States?FAPE
IDEA

What are some of the most common acronyms parents & caregivers will encounter, and what do they mean?IEPs
504 plans
LRE
SDI
OHI

What are some early signs that a child might need additional support or an educational assessment?
How does trauma impact a child’s ability to learn and show up in the classroom?
What are the first steps a parent or caregiver should take if they believe their child needs to be evaluated?
What is involved in an educational assessment, and what should families expect from that process?
Once a child is evaluated, how do families understand the results and translate them into meaningful support?
Can you explain the difference between an IEP and a 504 plan in terms of the support and accommodations they include?
What kinds of accommodations or supports should parents and caregivers be aware of that they can request in an IEP or 504 plan?
What are some common mistakes or misconceptions parents have when entering this process?
What rights do foster or kinship parents have when it comes to requesting evaluations and services?
Are foster or kinship parents allowed to attend IEP or 504 meetings, and what role can they play in those discussions?
How can foster or kinship parents support a child with learning differences or disabilities at home, to reinforce what is being done at school?
What should parents do if they feel the school isn’t providing adequate support or following through on a plan?
For families just beginning this journey, what are a few practical first steps they can take this week to start advocating for their child?
What message of encouragement or reassurance would you like to leave with parents and caregivers who are walking this path?
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Question: My child is in upper elementary school, and we’ve been together for a while, but they still keep me at arm’s length. What are some concrete things I can do now to help build a more secure attachment?
Resources:
Establishing Secure Attachment with Your New Foster or Adopted Tween or Teen
Understanding and Improving Parent-Child Attachment
The Power of Curiosity: Helping Kids Feel Safe to Grow
Understanding How Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs) Help Kids Thrive
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