Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

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Helping young adults in foster or kinship care transition toward adulthood can feel overwhelming for foster parents and relative caregivers. Join us today for a conversation with Vernell Gore of Youth Villages and Nick Sgarlata of Bridge to Brighter, for practical ways to prepare and equip your foster or kin youth for adulthood.
In this episode, we discuss:
What makes this stage of life uniquely challenging for youth in foster or kinship care compared to their peers?
What does a successful transition to adulthood actually look like?
What are some common misconceptions that caregivers or professionals have about youth who are nearing adulthood?
When you think about a young person leaving care and thriving in adulthood, what key elements need to be in place?
Why might a young person leaving foster care or relative care at the same time they are leaving high school feel the weight of this uncertainty more than their peers? 
How and where can foster parents or kin carers help youth explore different career paths and possibilities?
What are some practical ways they can research those options and make informed decisions?
What types of programs or pathways will help youth develop skills, discipline, or career direction?
What are the most important money skills young people need before they leave care?
What are some simple ways to start teaching these skills while the youth are still at home?
What are some everyday adult responsibilities that youth may struggle with? 
What are some of the benefits of mentors for a young person transitioning out of foster care? 
How can they begin finding mentors or supportive role models?
Beyond practical skills, what character traits or skills do young people need to develop to succeed in adulthood?
Many youth in foster care or living with a grandparent or relative are carrying trauma from earlier experiences. How important are healing and identity development in preparing them for adulthood?
How might a foster parent or relative caregiver support their young person toward healing?
What are a few common mistakes adults make when trying to prepare youth for adulthood?
What practical steps can foster or kinship carers start today to prepare their youth for adulthood? 
Resources:
Raising Kids with Neurodiversity (ADHD)
Maintaining a Healthy Perspective When Parenting Tweens & Teens
Prenatal Exposure, Part 2: Parenting Tweens and Teens

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Please leave us a rating or review.  This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
Weekly podcasts
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Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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A Lifebook is the story of how your child came to be yours and the story of his life before he came to you. Adoption is only one aspect of your child, and at some point, his life merges into your life. However, he had a life before he came to your family, and his Lifebook tells this part of his story.
Resources:
Adoption Lifebooks (Suggested Books)
Welcoming an Older Child to Your Home (Resource Page)
Transitioning a Child to Your Home (Resource Page)
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Please leave us a rating or review.  This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
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Raising kids impacted by adoption, foster care, or kinship care can do a number on your marriage or life partnership. Join us for a conversation with Jeremy & Jara Walden, authors of The Heart Work of Foster Care: A Hopeful and Honest Guide to Foster Parenting, about strategies to re-prioritize and strengthen your most significant relationship.
In this episode, we discuss:
How can raising kids together enhance a marriage or relationship? 
Why are kids in our community often harder to parent?Trauma, loss, neglect
Prenatal substance exposure
Challenging behaviors that come from those experiences

Why and how might our kids’ needs test our adult relationships?
What are some of the additional stressors our relationships may face when fostering or adopting kids who’ve been exposed to trauma?  
What are some challenging behaviors kids who’ve experienced trauma can bring that might be particularly difficult for the marriage?
What are some signs that we may be neglecting or at least not maintaining our significant relationship?
How does your history impact your marriage, while raising kids with trauma impacts?
Can you offer specific strategies for “going back,” healing, or re-prioritizing our marriages or partnerships if we are listening to this and realize we haven’t done so?
How do single parents prioritize the adult relationships that they value?
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Question: We have two children adopted through the foster care system as infants - an almost 10-year-old (AudHD) and a 4.5-year-old (neurotypical). They both come into our room every night in the middle of the night, and it really disturbs my sleep and my husband's sleep. It seems like we've tried everything to get them to stop. Recently, we told them we were going to start locking our door, but then they just come and knock and knock until one of us gets up. If we try to put them back in their own beds, they make us lie down with them until they fall asleep - then I can't get back to sleep after that. Not sure how to handle this situation.
Resources:
Sleep Issues with Adopted, Foster, or Relative Children
Why Won't My Child Sleep?! (And What Can I Do?)
Help! My Newly Placed Child is Regressing on Sleep
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Would you like to learn how to build a culture of joy, connection, and healing in your home? Join us for a conversation with Bryan Post, an adoptee and therapist specializing in child behavior, adoption trauma, and love-based parenting. He's the founder of Fear to Love LLC, Bondify.ai, and Leaf Wraparound, and the author of several books, including From Fear to Love.
In this episode, we discuss:
Bryan's journey as an adoptee and how that shaped his work with families today.
What do we need to know about trauma, its impacts on the kids, and how it shows up day to day?
Why might we as parents be tempted to misinterpret those behaviors and expressions as defiance, manipulation, or disrespect? 
When a child is melting down, shutting down, or pushing adults away, what’s actually happening in their brain and nervous system?
In a very real-life parenting moment — like a slammed door, eye rolls, a screaming match, a refusal to comply — what does the shift from fear-based reactions to love-based responses actually look like?
Can you share two or three concrete strategies parents can start practicing immediately that reflect that mindset shift?
Could you give us an example of words or scripts a parent might use in that moment? 
How can a parent calm themselves first when their child’s behavior is triggering them? 
What might a “culture of love and joy” actually look like inside a home — especially one that has experienced a lot of chaos?
What are some of the small, daily practices that build trust over time?
What does growth look like in a trauma-impacted home?
One or two examples of how-to or where to capture JOY in the moments when we are feeling challenged about when or where healing may happen. 
Resources:
Learn more about Bryan Post
Introduction to Attachment - Online Parent Education course
Raising Kids for a Lifelong Parent/Child Bond - Podcast
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Please leave us a rating or review.  This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
Weekly podcasts
Weekly articles/blog posts
Resource pages on all aspects of family building