Send us a textFresh from the dusty desert plains of a Burning Man-esque festival, a sleepy Lauren and Ben kick things off with tales of naked bike rides, spanking vs. stomach-raspberries (you'll have to listen to find out who chose what), and a goddess statue with vape-juice teats. Then, they dive into the final season of "Compersion," a show with a plot so bonkers it leaves Ben speechless: a wife inviting her husband's affair partner over for lasagna to… get them back together?! Tune in for a masterclass in (mostly) what not to do.For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-MonogamistSwingingLifestyleCoach.com Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swinginglifestylecoach Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew
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Compersion Season 1: A (kinda) Cautionary Tale
Send us a textLauren kicks things off by humbling Ben’s enthusiasm—turns out she’s not soooo good, just “regular good.” From there, they dive into a lively pre-show chat that includes music festival misadventures and an unfiltered look at Lauren’s “Sacred Sluts” project. Then it's time for a no-holds-barred breakdown of Compersion Season 1: morning-after mishaps, questionable partner choices (maybe don’t date the kid’s teacher?), and the ever-controversial one-penis policy. There’s laughter, a little cringing, and plenty of insight into what not to do in non-monogamy. For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-MonogamistSwingingLifestyleCoach.com Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swinginglifestylecoach Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew
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A Love Story: A Professor, a Triad and a Super Hero
Send us a textLauren and Ben trip over pleasantries straight into naked hot tubs, Tropicana slander, and the dread of floppy poolside antics. On this episode they dissect a movie about a polyamorous relationship (in the 20's!) and Wonder Woman's kinky origins. Professor Marston and the Wonder Women gets a solid review, along with plenty of made-up speculation. There are tangents on power dynamics and why Ben shouldn't date Sabrina Carpenter. As usual, it makes zero sense and perfect sense!For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-MonogamistSwingingLifestyleCoach.com Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swinginglifestylecoach Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew
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Wanderlust, Winding Through ENM, & Wasted Ski Days
Send us a textLauren’s fresh off a very successful swingers’ trip (tan lines included!), while Ben’s still mourning a flat tire that ruined his ski plans. Ouch! They dissect Netflix’s Wanderlust, calling out TV’s obsession with simultaneous orgasms and the awkwardness of meeting your partner's other partners.The conversation takes a heartfelt turn as they discuss the complexities of telling kids about polyamory, with Lauren and Ben sharing their personal experiences and the unexpected reactions from their children. They also ponder the cultural differences between the swinging and polyamorous communities, and whether "Wanderlust" is secretly a monogamy manifesto in disguise.Expect playful jabs, surprisingly deep dives into poly vs. swinging, and a karaoke song recommendation you need to add to your repertoire. Plus, Ben bravely reviews Lauren's book (spoiler: he loved it!).For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-MonogamistSwingingLifestyleCoach.com Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swinginglifestylecoach Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew
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Wanderlust is Not a Bust
Send us a textTune into "Examined Lives " where Lauren, the Swinging Lifestyle Coach, and her friend Ben dissect Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) in pop culture. This week, they discuss BBC's (now seen on Netflix) "Wanderlust", where a couple messily cheats their way into non-monogamy. They debate infidelity-as-a-gateway to non-monogamy, the perils of office masturbation (in a disabled toilet?), and whether train sex beats plane sex (it does). Lauren defends Utah's surprisingly secretive ENM scene, and Ben relays his recent adventure at "the club that shall not be named." Tune in for the awkward endings and surprisingly deep dives as Lauren and Ben bicker their way through the wonderful world of open relationships, one bad sex scene at a time!For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-MonogamistSwingingLifestyleCoach.com Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swinginglifestylecoach Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew
Welcome to an evolved "The Examined Lives" podcast! What started as a deep dive into the drama of the The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives reality show has evolved into a bold exploration of modern love, non-monogamy, and its portrayal in mainstream media. Join hosts Lauren, an ENM relationship coach and swinger, and Ben, an ex-LDS polyamorist, as they bring their unique perspectives to mainstream media’s portrayal of ethical non-monogamy. From dissecting TV shows to sharing their own insights and experiences, Lauren and Ben invite you to laugh, learn, and rethink what love can look like.Whether you're here for the spicy stories, thought-provoking discussions, or just some good company, this podcast is your go-to for real talk about relationships that break the mold. Buckle up—it’s about to get real, raw, and a little rebellious!Still, unofficially representing real communities sometimes misrepresented in mediaHosted by: Lauren Hayes, Swinging Lifestyle Coach & her poly friend, Ben
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