263. Save Money Without Feeling Deprived (Money Coaching with Tori)
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Saving money doesn’t have to feel like a punishment, and in today’s episode, I’m proving it. I’m diving into coaching questions from listeners about how to save without feeling deprived, how to break out of scarcity mindset, and how to balance long-term goals with actually enjoying life. From processing layoffs and using your emergency fund without guilt to understanding why fear hijacks your finances, this episode is packed with practical money advice, emotional mindset shifts, and actionable tools for creating a sustainable financial plan that still lets you have a life. If you’ve ever struggled to save without feeling deprived, or wondered how to make money choices that feel good today and set you up for tomorrow, this coaching session is for you.
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00:00 – Money Coaching With Tori: Ask a Multimillionaire Anything
01:00 – Listener Win: Starting a Side Hustle With Confidence
02:15 – Why Women Struggle With Taking Risks
04:00 – How to Start a Business When You’re Scared of Judgment
05:00 – Question 1: “I’m Afraid to Touch My Savings After a Layoff”
06:15 – How to Use Your Emergency Fund Without Guilt
07:00 – Navigating Layoffs, Uncertainty, and a Volatile Job Market
08:00 – Is It Time for a Career Pivot or Freelancing?
09:00 – Resetting Your Career After a Job Loss
10:00 – Why You Need a Personal Project During a Job Search
11:00 – Question 2: “How Do I Stop Living in Scarcity Mode?”
12:00 – Balancing Saving, Spending, and Generosity
13:00 – Understanding Your Financial Trauma & Scarcity Triggers
14:00 – How Fear Lies to You About Money
15:30 – The “Put Fear in the Back Seat” Strategy (Liz Gilbert Method)
17:00 – How to Budget for Generosity Without Derailing Your Goals
18:30 – Why You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup (Money Edition)
20:00 – How Scarcity Mindset Affects Your Financial Decisions
21:00 – Why You Must Talk About Money in Therapy
22:00 – Question 3: Balancing Saving for Retirement With Wanting to Live Now
23:00 – YOLO vs. Long-Term Money Goals: Finding the Middle Ground
24:00 – Make Retirement Feel Real: Visualizing Your 65-Year-Old Self
25:30 – “Saver vs. Spender” Is a Myth — Here’s What You Actually Are
27:00 – How to Trick Your Brain Into Enjoying Saving Money
28:00 – Using the Three-Bucket Budget to Spend Guilt-Free
29:00 – Lightning Round: Emergency Funds, Life Insurance, and Over-Saving
31:00 – What Life Insurance Should Actually Look Like
32:00 – How Much Is Too Much in Savings?
33:00 – Free Resources: 7-Day Money Reset + Stock Market Workshop
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262. Why I Hate Dave Ramsey
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Dave Ramsey has millions of followers who swear by his money advice, but does his one size fits all approach actually help or hurt? In today’s episode I’m breaking down the full picture––what he gets right, where his advice becomes harmful, and why so many people feel shame, fear, or financial stagnation after following his rigid frameworks. From emergency funds and credit cards to retirement timing, debt payoff, and the systemic barriers Ramsey ignores, I’m diving into the nuance he refuses to acknowledge—so you can take the helpful parts and leave the rest behind. If you’ve ever struggled to explain why Dave Ramsey isn’t your financial cup of tea, save this episode.
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00:00 Intro
01:59 Dave Ramsey’s “Baby Steps” framework
02:56 Dave Ramsey’s appeal
03:17 Lack of nuance and ignoring systemic issues
04:04 What Dave Ramsey gets right
07:10 Major problems with Ramsey’s advice
07:37 $1,000 emergency fund is too low
09:36 “All debt is bad” is harmful and misleading
10:45 The 7% rule: When to pay off debt vs. invest
11:20 Unrealistic mortgage and home-buying advice
12:20 Why rigid rules are easier to sell, but less helpful
13:28 The role of shame and discipline
15:32 Use of Christianity and morality in marketing
16:47 Advice on combining finances in marriage
18:21 Lawsuits and toxic workplace allegations
21:48 Out-of-touch advice on childcare
22:45 How to use Ramsey’s advice mindfully
24:36 Systemic oppression in personal finance
25:44 Credit scores and credit cards
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261. Save Money on Medical Bills and Navigate Health Insurance Like a Pro with Dan Weissmann
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Healthcare in America shouldn’t feel like a rigged game––but too often it does. Leaving many people feeling swindled by confusing insurance plans, surprise medical bills, and endless fine print. To help navigate this complex system, I'm joined by Dan Weissmann, journalist and host of the NPR podcast An Arm and a Leg. Dan explains why U.S. healthcare feels broken––and how to get the most out of a flawed system. He'll share strategies to protect your finances and well-being, from selecting the right health insurance during open enrollment to identifying billing errors, challenging unfair charges, and saving hundreds on prescriptions.
Dan’s links:
Website: https://armandalegshow.com/
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00:00 Intro
01:15 Why Healthcare Is So Expensive
03:00 The System Is Confusing by Design
06:00 Understanding What You Actually Owe
08:30 What To Do When You Get a Medical Bill
10:45 How To Talk to Your Insurance Company
13:00 The Hidden Traps in High-Deductible Plans
15:30 Should You Pay Your Bill Right Away?
18:00 How Medical Debt Affects Your Credit
20:15 How To Negotiate a Medical Bill
22:00 What To Do If You Can’t Afford Care
24:30 The Emotional Cost of Healthcare
27:00 Why Women Carry More Medical Debt
30:00 The Future of Healthcare Transparency
33:00 The Wildest Story From An Arm and a Leg
36:00 How To Be Your Own Healthcare Advocate
38:00 How To Find a Fair Price for Care
41:00 Quick Wins To Save on Medical Costs
43:00 What True Financial Wellness Means
44:00 Outro + Resources
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260. Money Mistakes That Cost Me Everything (And How To Avoid Them) with Nicole Lapin
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We all make financial mistakes, but what happens when those mistakes literally cost you everything? In this episode, I sit down with money expert, author, and host Nicole Lapin, who shares her deeply personal story of losing her home and studio in the LA fires just two weeks after giving birth—and the painful lessons she learned in the aftermath. From skipping business insurance to the emotional toll of rebuilding from scratch, Nicole gets brutally honest about the financial oversights that even experts can make, and how you can protect yourself before disaster strikes. We also talk about the realities of new motherhood, navigating shame, estate planning, and why money isn’t just about numbers—it’s about safety, security, and learning how to trust yourself again.
Nicole’s links:
Website: https://nicolelapin.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolelapin/?hl=en
Podcast: https://moneynewsnetwork.com/podcast/money-rehab/
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00:00 Intro
00:41 LA Fires & loss
01:51 Documenting for insurance
02:35 Money & safety
05:02 Insurance tips
11:11 Parenthood finances
16:37 Childcare costs
19:00 Parenting boundaries
21:41 Teaching kids money
22:41 Investing basics
25:07 Money priorities
29:40 Estate Planning
32:26 Debt & leverage
34:20 Imposter syndrome
38:57 Building your path
41:57 Financial shame
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259. How to Get Out of Financial Survival Mode
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If you’ve ever felt like no matter how hard you try, you can’t get ahead — like you’re constantly putting out financial fires instead of building the life you want — this episode is for you. I’m breaking down exactly what financial survival mode looks like, why it’s not your fault, and how to finally get out of it. We’ll talk about the emotional and psychological patterns that keep you stuck, how to retrain your brain to take control of your money, and the simple, actionable steps you can start today to move from scarcity to stability. Because you’re not bad with money, you’re just trying to survive in a system that wasn’t built for you.
00:00 — You’re Not Bad With Money (Here’s Why You Feel Stuck)
01:00 — What “Financial Survival Mode” Actually Looks Like
02:00 — Signs You’re in Financial Scarcity Mode
04:00 — “I’m Bad With Money” Is a Lie We’ve Been Taught
05:00 — Free Resource: The 5-Day Debt Payoff Challenge
06:00 — How Scarcity Mindset Affects Your Decisions
07:00 — Why “Just Work Harder” Advice Misses the Point
08:00 — The Real Source of Money Stress (It’s Not What You Think)
09:00 — The Gas Tank Metaphor: Know What’s in the Tank
10:00 — The Horror Movie Rule: Face the Monster
11:00 — How to Get Out of Financial Scarcity Mode (Step-by-Step)
12:00 — What a “Money Date” Looks Like
13:00 — How to Analyze Your Spending Patterns
15:00 — The Hidden Benefit of Tracking Progress
16:00 — Setting Money Goals That Actually Work
18:00 — A Goal Without a Plan Is Just a Wish
19:00 — Your 30-Day Action Plan for Financial Progress
20:00 — Small Wins Create Big Momentum
21:00 — The Power of Accountability (And Why We All Need It)
23:00 — The Role of Mindset and Financial Trauma
24:00 — Must-Listen Episodes to Go Deeper
25:00 — Final Pep Talk: You’re Doing Great
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