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You know those moments when you KNOW you’re self-sabotaging, you feel the same triggers come up in every relationship, or you second-guess if you’re “too much” or “not enough”… but you can’t figure out WHY? Girl, you are not alone.

Today we are diving into the juicy, sometimes messy, but always REAL world of attachment styles… with none other than the legend herself, Thais Gibson, queen of making neuroscience and relationships make SENSE.

I’m coming for every anxious thought, every “do I text him back or run for the hills?” crisis, and all things Girl Gang growth. Plus, Thais is giving you the science and practical quiz to decode your attachment style, as we do it together, live and in real time.

No therapy jargon here. We talk:


Real-life family drama (We get deep on the Brooklyn Beckham controversy)


What to do when YOU’RE the one with the avoidant, anxious, or even fearful avoidant traits (spoiler: you can change, homie)


The messy process of setting boundaries (and accidentally overreacting, then feeling guilty #beenthere)


The difference between a dismissive avoidant and a narcissist (it’s not the same and we break it DOWN)


Why you keep attracting the same toxic relationships (and what to actually do about it, step by step)


How to rewire your attachment style… even if it feels impossible after years of baggage and bear-in-the-woods-level triggers (if you know, you know)

If you want to finally understand yourself, your partners, and stop the self-sabotage spiral, this episode is your roadmap. Say goodbye to drama and hello to high-value relationships and self-love.

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Ready for the real talk? In part two, Dr. Spirit and Lisa Bilyeu get even deeper, unpacking the emotional rollercoaster of love, boundaries, and all those “why does he DO that?!” questions you’ve probably vented about to your girlfriends. They get into everything from why it’s so hard to walk away, to how to communicate without losing yourself, and the sneaky ways gaslighting shows up (yep, even Taylor Swift can relate).

With juicy listener questions, viral video clips, and laugh-out-loud moments, Spirit dishes on how to spot performative affection vs. the real deal, why relationships fall apart when you stop trying, and why it’s totally OK to expect (and get!) more from love. 

SHOWNOTES

Infidelity, ownership, and why it’s NOT your fault

The hard convo: when “life stuff” gets in the way of intimacy

The MANY forms of infidelity, yes, emotional and financial too

The ultimate red flag: when you start to shrink

Why the real offense is when you stick around

Take your power back, he doesn’t need to change for you to leave

Why we crave validation from the very people that hurt us

Are your “forevers” even aligned?

Are you his partner, or his mom? (Breaking down viral “mental load” drama)

The relationship falls apart when you stop trying, now what?

How to spot real love from fake affection (for the romantics)

Spirit’s nonprofit: how to get involved and give back

 

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Welcome to a seriously honest and empowering episode of Women of Impact! In this first half, Lisa Bilyeu sits down with superstar relationship expert Spirit, who brings her no-nonsense wisdom and some hard-hitting truth bombs about love, dating, and why so many women end up feeling stuck in relationships that are less than they deserve. If you’ve ever found yourself over-analyzing “red flags,” settling for someone’s “potential,” or just wanting someone to help you finally decode men’s confusing behavior, you’re in the right place.

Spirit breaks down the real difference between care and control, why settling never works out the way you hope, and how to finally stop repeating patterns you hate. Grab a notebook, this is the relationship reality check you didn’t know you needed.

SHOWNOTES

“Marry Him or Move On”—Red flag vs. green flag game!Is he too involved or just thoughtful?

Why it’s so easy to fall for potential (and why that’s dangerous)

Chasing the fantasy vs. living in reality

Defining true safety and partnership

Red flags: when things move too fast

Stories we tell ourselves to justify staying

The “almost compatible” trap

Raising your standards: how to break the cycle

When toxic partners echo your worst fears

Spirit gets personal: Surviving a narcissist

Healing from emotional abuse and reclaiming confidence

The official red flag checklist: how to spot if something’s wrong

Why “I’ll change” is usually just a line

Why men avoid hard conversations (brains and emotional muscles explained)

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Welcome back for part 2 of this mind-blowing conversation on Women of Impact, where my homie, trauma-informed psychologist, Mariel Buque PhD continues to expose the world of manipulation. 

Stick around and dive deep with us into the idea of holding a relationship funeral to ensure toxic exes stay in the past where they belong. Discover how relentless a manipulative partner can get to keep you under control, and learn how to break free from their grasp. Mariel shares insights, tools, and strategies that will help you see through the manipulation, set up manipulator proof boundaries and reclaim your sense of self. 

Get ready for a revelation-packed episode that will leave you feeling stronger and more confident than ever before.

If you’re ready to deep dive on healing intergenerational trauma and breaking the toxic cycles you find yourself in, check out Mariel’s book, Break the Cycles: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593472497⁠? 

“Everyone should know what narcissism looks like, what manipulation looks like, the ways that these people hoover their way into your life, how they suck you into cycles, we should all feel some kind of protection from these experiences in relationships.” -Mariel Buque

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In this gripping episode of Women of Impact, I want you to think about how much your own words or insecurities, pains and traumas have been used against you to keep you under control.

Today, I’m joining forces with psychologist Mariel Buque to tackle the topic of manipulation head-on. Mariel, who went through a two-year grieving process after escaping a toxic relationship herself, shares her insights on shutting down toxic people. From recognizing the signs of manipulation to standing up for yourself without losing control, Mariel doubles down on the kind of advice that can help you finally break these toxic cycles. 

“We may never actually get any kind of ‘I’m sorry’, any kind of validation for our experiences, and so what we need to do is move on and find ourselves yet again.” -Mariel Buque

Discover the tricks and tactics of controlling partners, the impact of gaslighting, and effective strategies to reclaim your power. If you're tired of being manipulated and want to break free from toxic cycles, this episode is a must-listen.

And be sure to check out part 2 of this life-changing conversation. We move from unpacking the control game manipulators play to setting up manipulator proof boundaries that will help you move accordingly once you’re free.

If you’re ready to deep dive on healing intergenerational trauma and breaking the toxic cycles you find yourself in, check out Mariel’s book, Break the Cycles: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593472497⁠? 

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