Beyond Words with Najwa Zebian

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021- How to Actually Let Go
Send us a textLetting go isn’t a single decision. It’s a slow, sacred process.In this episode of Beyond Words, Najwa explores what it really means to release someone, something, or a dream that once felt like home. You’ll learn why your struggle to let go is not a sign of weakness, but proof of how deeply you love, care, and stay loyal to what matters.Through stories, analogies, and soulful reflection, Najwa guides you through the gentle art of loosening your grip without abandoning yourself in the process."Your struggle to let go is not failure. It’s evidence of your depth.”🕒 Timestamps00:00 — The truth about why letting go feels impossible 01:26 — How do you actually make peace with what’s gone? 03:45 — The beauty in your ability to hold on 06:17 — Why holding on isn’t weakness 07:21 — When people make you feel foolish for still caring 08:23 — Listening to what your pain is trying to say 09:26 — The power of going slowly 10:38 — How to ground yourself when you shut down 12:52 — Numbing and distraction as survival 14:59 — “God doesn’t burden a soul more than it can bear” 17:22 — Relapse is not failure 19:36 — Practical steps for letting go 20:41 — Journal prompts to understand your attachment 22:38 — Why time alone doesn’t heal you 25:20 — The rope analogy: how healing happens in layers 28:54 — Climbing your emotional mountain 30:16 — Grieving what you thought would last 31:55 — The parts of you that still hold on 33:03 — Words That Found Me: Epictetus on acceptance 35:07 — The nature of impermanence 36:16 — Final reflection and gratitude🧭 Show NotesIn this episode, Najwa shares:The real reason it’s so hard to let goHow holding on can be an expression of loyalty, not weaknessThe difference between forcing closure and finding peaceWhat grief actually looks like when love still lingersHow to stop judging yourself for still caringWhy letting go takes safety, patience, and timeKey quotes:“If it took you years to hold on, you can’t let go in a day.”“Your ability to hold on shows not your weakness, but your power.”“You don’t let go by deciding to forget; you let go by deciding to feel.”“Maybe you were never meant to drop the mountain — only to climb it.”Mentioned in this episode: 📖 The Only Constant – “I will go as fast as the slowest part of me feels safe.” 🎵 Gentle With Myself by Karen Drucker 📜 Epictetus — “Seek not that the things which happen should happen as you wish...”Reflection prompts:What am I still holding on to that no longer holds me?What part of me is afraid of what life will look like when I finally let go?What small step could I take today to release one thread of that rope?Listen and remember: You don’t let go by being stronger. You let go by being gentler with the parts of you that still care.
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020- How to Break the Habits That Are Breaking You
Send us a textWe all have habits that feel harmless but quietly drain our energy and self-worth. In this episode of Beyond Words, Najwa Zebian breaks down how habits born from pain (people-pleasing, shrinking, over-explaining) keep us stuck in survival mode.Learn how to stop punishing yourself through your routines and start creating habits that honor your healing, growth, and peace.✨ “Some of your habits aren’t neutral. They’re teaching you to abandon yourself.”🕒 Timestamps00:00 — Opening hook: The habits that betray your peace 02:14 — How childhood wounds shape your patterns 05:32 — Habits that look “good” but are rooted in fear 09:00 — Why discipline without compassion becomes self-punishment 12:45 — Replacing self-betrayal with self-respect 16:08 — The question that changes everything: Is this habit building me or breaking me? 19:40 — How to make healing a daily habit 22:10 — Closing reflection: becoming who your habits believe in🧭 Show NotesYou’ll learn: • The emotional roots of destructive habits • How “good habits” can still come from self-rejection • Ways to replace punishing routines with nurturing ones • How to make peace a daily practiceReflective prompts: • Which habit feels like a quiet betrayal of myself? • Which new habit would help me feel more at home in my own life?Mentioned: 📖 Welcome Home — learning to build emotional safety 📚 The Only Constant — on conscious transformationConnect: Follow @najwazebian for more reflections, and leave a 5-star review if this episode helped you build habits that honor who you’re becoming.
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019- How to Stop People Pleasing
Send us a textIn this episode of Beyond Words, we’re diving deep into one of the most exhausting, identity-shaping patterns so many of us carry: people pleasing.If you've spent your life monitoring everyone’s emotions…If you jump at the first sign of someone being upset…If your peace depends on whether everyone around you is okay…This episode is going to hit home.Together, we explore:Why people pleasers often give the most to those who value them the leastHow childhood conditioning trains you to carry emotions that were never yoursWhy avoidant people make you feel like the villain when you express your needsHow “fixing” others becomes a form of abandoning yourselfWhy you feel guilty when someone rejects your helpHow to stop shrinking, over-explaining, and trying to earn love through effortThis is not a conversation about becoming hard or cold.It’s a conversation about returning to yourself... the self you left behind while saving everyone else.Words That Found Me: “The only people who get upset when you set boundaries are the ones who benefited from you having none.” — UnknownWords That Held Me (from The Book of Healing): Because You Are a Good HeartIf this episode resonates with you, please leave a rating or review. Your support helps this podcast reach the people who need it most.
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018- How to Choose Yourself After Someone Discards You
Send us a textWhen someone stops choosing you, it can feel like being thrown away. In this heartfelt episode, Najwa explores the pain of being discarded, the illusion of lost worth, and the deep healing that begins when you finally choose yourself.Timestamps / Chapters00:00 – The Voice That Says “Choose Yourself” The inner conflict between fear and truth — the voice that tells you to stay vs. the one that calls you home to yourself.01:14 – The Pain of Being Discarded The shock, confusion, and humiliation of feeling unwanted — and why it doesn’t define your worth.04:18 – Stop Trying to Make Sense of It Let go of trying to understand why someone stopped loving you. Some things aren’t meant to make sense.05:24 – They Never Saw Your True Value If their love vanishes overnight, they never truly saw you — only what they could gain from you.08:59 – What Love Really Is True love isn’t games or indifference — it’s safety, vulnerability, and care.14:27 – When They Change Their Mind Their change of heart isn’t your fault. Your integrity and truth remain untouched.17:42 – The Fear of Being Alone How fear convinces us to hold on — and how to replace it with self-compassion.19:59 – Reclaiming Your Voice Stop silencing yourself to be loved. Speak your truth, even if it costs you someone’s presence.27:23 – Shifting the Question From “How can I make them choose me?” to “How can I choose myself today?”32:54 – Don’t Let Someone’s Trash Define You When someone treats you like garbage, it reveals them — not you.39:01 – Words That Found Me Najwa reads from The Book of Healing:“If I am not worth your apology, you are not worth me carrying the pain you caused.”43:00 – Closing Reflection The first person who owes you to choose you — is you.💬 Key TakeawaysBeing discarded doesn’t erase your value.Stop explaining what they’ve already decided not to see.Healing begins the moment you choose yourself.
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017- How to Let Them Be Who They Want to Be
Send us a textWhen you’re so used to overexplaining, overgiving, and overextending yourself — choosing silence can feel impossible. But what if silence is where your real power begins?In this episode, Najwa explores what it means to stop trying to change people, to stop rescuing them from who they’ve chosen to be, and to finally let your peace speak louder than your pain.Through powerful storytelling, gentle truth, and poetic reflection, Najwa helps you understand:Why you struggle to accept the truth about othersHow overexplaining becomes a form of self-betrayalWhy fawning and people-pleasing are trauma responsesThe difference between compassion and self-abandonmentHow to stand in quiet integrity and let others face their own consequencesIf you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive,” or if you’ve loved people who constantly hurt you, this episode will remind you: You never have to explain to someone what they already know they did.Timestamps00:00 — When you stop overexerting yourself and choose silence 01:28 — Letting go of control and seeing people for who they really are 04:26 — Why we excuse others’ hurtful behavior 05:31 — The guilt and consequences of setting boundaries 07:51 — Recognizing intentional harm and emotional maturity 10:23 — On jealousy, comparison, and emotional growth 15:53 — “Great minds think alike, but fools seldom differ” — the company you keep 20:49 — When helping turns into self-sacrifice 26:02 — Healthy vs. unhealthy responses to mistreatment 30:13 — Stop trying to change people; let them reveal themselves 31:18 — The scorpion and the frog: understanding character 35:02 — Staying kind without betraying yourself 36:11 — “Let Them F*** Around and Find Out” — strength in self-respect 40:34 — Integrity, boundaries, and the quiet storm of peace 41:41 — Final reflections: let them be who they are, and protect who you are
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