The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

In this episode, Sarah Wilson explores how to live fully in an uncertain world by asking one of life’s most important questions: Who do you want to be when everything around you feels unstable? Drawing on philosophy, psychology, history, and her new book, I Eat the Stars: How ot Live Fully and Beautifully in a Collapsing World, Sarah shares why facing difficult truths doesn’t have to lead to despair—and how accepting uncertainty can actually bring greater clarity, meaning, and aliveness. Together, she and Eric discuss resilience, hope, community, and what it means to become an “island of sanity” in challenging times.

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Key Takeaways:

Why uncertainty can become a source of meaning rather than fear.

The difference between false hope and a deeper, more resilient hope.

How facing difficult truths can reduce anxiety and inner conflict.

Why asking “Who do I want to be?” matters more than trying to control the future.

The power of becoming an “island of sanity” for yourself and others.

How community, service, and caring for others help us navigate difficult times.

Why humans are more resilient than we often believe.

What history and ancient wisdom can teach us about flourishing during periods of upheaval.

For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Wilson, check out these other episodes:

How to Find Peace and Balance in Managing Anxiety with Sarah WilsonEmbracing Uncertainty: The Key to True Intimacy and Connection in a Chaotic World with Prince EA

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In this episode, David Brooks explores the art of seeing others and being deeply seen, and why our ability to make another person feel truly seen, heard, and understood may be one of the most important skills we can develop. He discusses the power of curiosity, the questions that lead to genuine connection, and how wise friends help us rewrite the stories we tell ourselves. Along the way, David explores loneliness, depression, difficult conversations, and why learning to truly know another person can transform not only our relationships, but our own lives.

Free Guide: Outsmart the Hidden Saboteurs of Self-Control. What’s been holding you back lately? In this free guide, Eric shares the six common saboteurs that quietly derail our best intentions—like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, and emotional escapism—and offers practical strategies to help you regain control and move forward. Download your free copy at oneyoufeed.net/ebook.

Key Takeaways:

Exploration of empathy and its importance in human connection.

Discussion of depression and its impact on individuals and society.

Insights on wisdom and the distinction between wisdom and knowledge.

The significance of meaningful conversation and deep engagement with others.

The concept of "stacking" and the tendency to judge others quickly.

Strategies for deepening conversations and fostering connection.

The role of humility and curiosity in understanding others' perspectives.

Navigating difficult conversations, especially across divides.

The nature of support for those struggling with mental health issues.

Reflections on the joy and meaning found in truly seeing and being seen by others.

For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with David Brooks, check out these other episodes:

Peter Block on Freeing Yourself from Consumer Culture

How Relationships Shape Our Happiness and Well-Being with Robert Waldinger

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In this episode, Spencer Greenberg discusses the 12 levers that actually help you change your life and explains why lasting personal growth isn’t about finding a single breakthrough technique—it’s about knowing which tool fits the challenge you’re facing. Drawing from his new book, The 12 Levers: The Complete Psychological Toolkit for Improving Your Life, Spencer shares how nearly 500 self-improvement methods can be organized into 12 core psychological strategies. He also explore habit change, values, fear, acceptance, and thinking more clearly, while showing why understanding the root cause of a problem is often the key to creating meaningful, lasting change.

Free Guide: Outsmart the Hidden Saboteurs of Self-Control. What’s been holding you back lately? In this free guide, Eric shares the six common saboteurs that quietly derail our best intentions—like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, and emotional escapism—and offers practical strategies to help you regain control and move forward. Download your free copy at oneyoufeed.net/ebook.

Key Takeaways:

Why self-improvement techniques can be organized into 12 core psychological levers

How understanding the root cause of a problem leads to more effective change

The ABC method for uncovering the thoughts and beliefs behind difficult emotions

Why analyzing your past successes is one of the most effective ways to build new habits

How identifying your values, priorities, and guiding principles leads to better decisions

Why gradually facing fear is more effective than avoiding it

The difference between accepting reality and approving of it

How resistance often creates more suffering than the problem itself

Practical ways to recognize and challenge distorted thinking

Why personal growth works best as a toolbox—not a search for a single solution

For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with Spencer Greenberg, check out these other episodes:

Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ Fogg

Behavior Change with Dr. John Norcross

How to Integrate Behavior Change with Your Values with Spencer Greenberg

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠'s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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In this episode, Dr. Pooja Lakshmin challenges the modern self-care industry and explains why meditation apps, bubble baths, and wellness routines often fail to address the real causes of burnout. She shares a more meaningful approach to well-being, one built on boundaries, self-compassion, values, and power. Pooja also discusses how to let go of guilt, stop chasing perfection, and create a life that reflects what truly matters, even in a world that constantly asks us to do more.

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Key Takeaways:

Why modern self-care often fails to address the root causes of burnout

The difference between faux self-care and real self-care

How systems and expectations shape our well-being

Why boundaries are essential—not selfish

The hidden role guilt plays in keeping us stuck

Practicing self-compassion without lowering your standards

Aligning your choices with your deepest values

Reclaiming your personal power in everyday decisions

Building sustainable habits that support long-term well-being

Why true self-care helps you show up more fully for yourself and others

For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, check out these other episodes

How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab

How to Integrate Behavior Change with Your Values with Spencer Greenberg

Crafting a Meaningful Life with Emily Esfahani Smith

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In this episode, Matthew Quick returns to discuss his powerful new memoir, Dad, Love, Me. He explores what it means to choose love after a lifetime of hurt, reflecting on caring for a father who never fully knew how to love him. Along the way, Matthew unpacks how childhood wounds shape us, why healing doesn’t depend on getting the apology we deserve, and how reclaiming our own story can lead to greater compassion, freedom, and meaning, even in relationships marked by deep hurt.

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Key Takeaways:

Why "good" and "bad" aren't enough to understand ourselves

How childhood trauma quietly shapes adult relationships

The deeper pain addiction is often trying to numb

Why we repeat unhealthy relationship patterns

The surprising difference between blame and responsibility

Healing without the apology you've been waiting for

What caring for an aging parent can teach us about ourselves

Why choosing compassion can be more healing than resentment

How telling your own story helps you reclaim your life

For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with Matthew Quick, check out these other episodes:

A Journey to Self-Discovery and Sobriety with Matthew Quick

What We Can Learn From Our Bad Wolf with Matthew Quick

This episode is sponsored by:

Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed.

⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠'s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠

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