The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

In this episode, John Miles explores the mattering effect and how to find your way back to meaning and connection when you feel invisible in your own life. Drawing on his experience of achieving career success while feeling increasingly disconnected, John explains how we can slowly lose our sense of worth when life becomes a constant effort to prove our value. He also discusses how to recognize that gradual withdrawal, reconnect with the meaning in everyday actions, and make more room for relationships that help us feel seen. This conversation offers a starting point for anyone who’s getting things done but struggling to feel fully present in the life they’re living.

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Key Takeaways:

Why feeling like you matter involves both feeling valued and knowing you make a difference

How the “slow fade” can leave you physically present but emotionally absent in your own life

The importance of belonging, having a say, and feeling safe enough to be yourself

How connecting everyday tasks to what you care about can restore a sense of meaning

Why reclaiming your choices starts with questioning the expectations you’ve been living by

How protecting time for meaningful relationships helps interrupt the cycle of disconnection

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If you enjoyed this conversation with John Miles, check out these other episodes:

How to Unlock Your Potential and Strategies for Intentional Living with John MilesLearning to Take Action for a Meaningful Life with Gregg Krech

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In this episode, Mariana Alessandri explores how to stop feeling bad about feeling bad, and why difficult emotions don’t mean there is something wrong with you. Drawing from her book, Night Vision: Seeing Ourselves Through Dark Moods, she discusses how the pressure to stay positive adds shame to pain, what it means to be on your own side, and how to support someone who’s struggling without trying to cheer them up. This conversation offers a more compassionate way to understand your emotions and feel less alone in them.

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Key Takeaways:

How judging yourself for difficult emotions adds another layer of suffering

Why the pressure to “choose happiness” can leave you feeling ashamed when you’re struggling

What changes when you ask “What’s wrong?” instead of “What’s wrong with me?”

How listening to anger and other uncomfortable emotions can help you understand what you need

Why accepting emotional pain can coexist with wanting relief from it

How to support someone through grief or sadness without demanding that they feel better

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Mariana Alessandri, check out these other episodes:

How Identity Can Affect How You Deal with Depression with Kimi Culp

Gabe Howard on Mental Illness

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In this episode, Cory Allen explores how to find calm when life won’t slow down and the pressure to keep doing more feels constant. Drawing from his new book, The Quiet Age, Cory shares how the tension we carry shapes our experience and why low moods can tell convincing lies about our self-worth. He also discusses letting go without giving up, making room for rest, and recognizing that a thought can feel real without being true. This conversation offers practical ways to meet difficult moments with greater clarity and find space to breathe within the life you already have.

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Key Takeaways:

How to recognize the everyday tension that makes small frustrations feel overwhelming

The difference between accepting a difficult situation and resigning yourself to it

Why rest supports progress—and how to loosen the pressure to always do more

How low moods turn temporary feelings into damaging stories about who you are

How returning to your values can help you separate your self-worth from your accomplishments

Why mental clarity comes from changing your relationship with thoughts rather than trying to eliminate them

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Cory Allen, check out these other episodes:

How to Shift Your Mindset and Believe More is Possible with Cory Allen

Mindfulness and Understanding Identity with Cory Allen

How to Feel Lighter with Yung Pueblo

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In this episode, Scott Stabile discusses how to be enough as you are and how to grow without shaming yourself. He explores how self-love and self-acceptance can support meaningful change, as well as how to practice self-compassion when it feels out of reach, recognize the small ways you already care for yourself, and loosen the grip of other people’s judgments. Drawing from his book Enough as You Are, Scott offers practical ways to build a more loving relationship with yourself, even when you’re struggling, making mistakes, or wishing you were further along.

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Key Takeaways:

How to recognize everyday acts of self-care as evidence that you’re already practicing self-love

Why “I’m willing to love myself” can be more helpful than an affirmation you don’t believe

How to accept yourself as you are while making choices that support growth

What it means to have your own back, especially when you fail or face rejection

How to work with envy and jealousy without adding shame to already difficult feelings

Why your past disappointments don’t have to determine what’s possible for your future

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Scott Stabile, check out these other episodes:

Choosing Love in a Divisive World: Empathy as Our Guiding Light with Scott Stabile

Perfecting Self-Love with Scott Stabile

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In this episode, Mark Nepo talks about how the words we use shape the way we experience our lives. Drawing on Mark’s new book The Language of the Soul, he explores how words can help us make room for pain and fear or make those experiences feel even bigger. Mark also discusses what it means to be wholehearted, why ordinary moments don’t have to feel extraordinary to matter, and how to return to a fuller sense of life when we’ve lost touch with it.

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Key Takeaways:

The words we choose can help us meet a difficult experience or intensify it.

Being wholehearted means making room for the full range of feelings, including the ones we’d rather avoid.

You don’t have to feel wonder in every ordinary moment for that moment to be worthwhile.

When fear or pain narrows your view, relationships and practices can help you find a wider perspective.

Acceptance can help you discern when to act and when to be patient.

Returning to presence is a practice; losing touch with it doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Mark Nepo, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Discovering Your Inner Resilience and Strength with Mark Nepo

Connecting to What Matters with Mark Nepo (2020)

How to Strengthen Your Resilience with Linda Graham

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