The Signpost Inn Podcast

Why do disagreements with my kids, or anyone I love, feel like the end of the world?       

When my kid comes at me with 'Dad, you CAN'T believe that!' It feels like everything is on the line. Like if we can't agree, we're done. Have you felt that way recently?

Brandon and Liv explore the concept of a "relational home"—that safe emotional space where we can hold pain without being destroyed by it. The problem? We often make our kids that home. Their approval becomes our anchor. And when they challenge our faith, our politics, our identity, it feels like an existential threat.

The solution isn't better arguments. It's a better anchor. Drawing from 2 Timothy 1:12, Liv shares how when God is your relational home, you can hold space for conflict without it threatening your existence. You're free to stay in the room, stay curious, stay loving—because your security isn't on the line.

Links:

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Spiritual Direction with Brandon: https://www.signpostinn.org/spiritual-direction

FREE Webinar — Heal & Deepen Your Relationship with Your Kids: https://www.signpostinn.org/webinar

In Prayer by CPH https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.cph.indevotion.android

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Here's an uncomfortable reality: we parents can easily idolize our kids.

When your teen or adult child is distant, critical, or just doesn't seem to like you, it cuts deep. You want their approval, their friendship, their gratitude. That's not wrong—it comes from love! But what happens when their opinion of you becomes the measure of your worth?

Brandon, Liv, and Matt explore the common trap of needing our kids' validation—and why it always backfires. When your child's approval becomes the sun in your identity solar system, you become grasping, controlling, or bitter. The very thing you're doing to win their love pushes them away.

The solution isn't trying harder. It's letting God be your source of validation so you're finally free to love your kids without needing anything back. That's when you can give them what they actually need: compassion, patience, and a parent who isn't desperate.

Practical. Honest. Hopeful.

Links:

How to Read the Gospels with Your Imagination Workshop: https://www.signpostinn.org/events/gospel-imagination-mar-21

Free Webinar — Heal & Deepen Your Relationship with Your Kids: https://www.signpostinn.org/webinar

Brandon's Book — Changing the Conversation: Learning to Dance Instead of Fight: https://www.signpostinn.org/book

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Thanks to Rex Daugherty for creating the original theme music for this podcast. He's an award-winning artist and you can check out more of his work at rex-daugherty.com

Your kid doesn't want to go to church. Before you panic or strategize, take a breath. This episode isn't about fixing your kid. It's about looking in the mirror first.

Brandon, Liv, and Matt explore why kids resist church (some reasons are healthy, some are legitimate critiques, some are heart resistance) and then ask the harder question: What implicit theology are you modeling at home? Your kids notice the gap between what you say about God and what you show them.

The good news? You can become what your teen actually needs: a "safe haven" where doubts are welcomed and a "secure base" that encourages exploration and offers forgiveness when they stumble. That's how God relates to you. And it's what you can offer your kids.

Practical. Honest. Hopeful. It's not too late.

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Thanks to Rex Daugherty for creating the original theme music for this podcast. He's an award-winning artist and you can check out more of his work at rex-daugherty.com

Have you ever stood in your kitchen, listening to your kids scream at each other, and thought: "A good parent wouldn't have kids like this. Did I screw them up?"

How about the holidays with family? Was it like a Hallmark movie, or were there disagreements and fights? Did you feel a little helpless and wonder if you failed your family?

Today we're going to talk about this feeling, because if you've ever asked it, you're not alone. Somewhere along the way, most of us started believing a lie: our kids are our report card. If they turn out well, we pass. If they struggle, fight, or walk away, we failed.

Links:

Not Home Yet: Audio book link

Changing the Conversation Book link

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Thanks to Rex Daugherty for creating the original theme music for this podcast. He's an award-winning artist and you can check out more of his work at rex-daugherty.com

Why does pain feel like "reality" and joy feel like a vacation? 

It is December 26th. The wrapping paper is in the trash, and for many of us, that "magical" feeling—if it was there at all—is starting to fade into the gray reality of winter. When the Christmas lights come down and we discard the tree we often feel like we are "homeless" in a broken world again. 

Join Matt and Brandon as they discuss how sorrow sometimes feels more real than joy. The boys think we have it backwards. They think the incarnation means that God has made this world his home, and that his presence is actually the most real thing of all!

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Links/References

That Thing Liv Wrote - Liv’s Substack (https://livbooth.substack.com/)

Take our audience survey! (https://myformflow.io/signpost-inn-ministries/survey)

Matt’s recommended song: God With Us by We Are Messengers.(https://open.spotify.com/track/4iaksnylPofkl5A1MpEsnS?si=g8ODsV1xRi27KmapweP6tg)

The Mystery of Christ & Why We Don’t Get It by Robert Farrar Capon (https://amzn.to/3NchwCi)

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Thanks to Rex Daugherty for creating the original theme music for this podcast. He's an award-winning artist and you can check out more of his work at rex-daugherty.com