AuDHD Flourishing

Most people have one or two core self-care needs that, if they're met, everything else feels easier. This episode is about how to figure out yours... and what to look out for when you hear people preaching about their own!
There's also acknowledgment that your neurodivergent body and brain may process things in different ways, so the following questions may not be that useful for you.

Figuring out your core self-care need or needs (just a jumping-off point!):
Thinking back to times in your life when things felt the easiest, what was your life like? Which of your needs were being met fairly well?
When life has been a bit easier or better, did you notice any particular ups and downs based on particular needs being met? For example, if you were overall feeling pretty good compared to your baseline, was there anything that particularly threw you off? Or something that could bring you back to that feeling better pretty quickly?
Tuning into your body right now, is there anything your body is asking for? This won't necessarily be a core need, it's more a check-in to see what messages your body is already good at giving you.
Thinking about the past few days, weeks, or months, are there any messages your body has been consistently giving you? For example, when you've felt tired, does it feel more like you need sleep, or more like you need food, or more like you need to be around another person to recharge? Again, this isn't a perfect metric, just noticing how your body talks to you.
Is there any form of self-care that feels like it REALLY fixes a bad day?

Resources mentioned:
Takedown of Why We Sleep: https://guzey.com/books/why-we-sleep/
Commentary on the above post: https://statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu/2019/11/18/is-matthew-walkers-why-we-sleep-riddled-with-scientific-and-factual-errors/
Transcript Doc

And one more link someone sent taking down the book Why We Sleep (I haven’t listened to this episode but the links alone look great): https://open.spotify.com/episode/4r0Vawq8xAfnsnKbYVUNhc?si=n7t-koeuS2GXQ2QnA8j4dQ

AuDHD Flourishing resources:
Transcript Doc
Mattia's Newsletter
Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)

Repost of ep 11, originally published Aug 18 2023
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it is what it is

AuDHD Flourishing resources:
Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)
Mattia's Newsletter
Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)
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Martha Munroe, a neurodivergent personal trainer, was noticing patterns in the ways her clients talked about exercise and their bodies. They were often driven by external goals (aesthetics, performance, what others think) vs. the internal experience of movement.
She reframes exercise as a way to explore and express through embodiment. Also, reclaiming exercise (not only movement) by offering gentle structure if desired.

I loved her book, Attuned Exercise!

Connect with Martha:
Attuned Exercise website
Martha's Instagram, @attunedexercise
marthamunroe.com
Also mentioned in episode (book I'm reading):
Girl on Girl: How Pop Culture Turned a Generation of Women Against Themselves

AuDHD Flourishing resources:
Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)
Mattia's Newsletter
Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)

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Parenting as an AuDHDer is challenging and misunderstood. Many parents I speak to are near or in burnout at any given time, especially if they had kids before discovering their neurotype (which is common).
This episode is based not on my experience as a parent, but my experience having spoken and heard from many AuDHD parents, and what I see working for them.

This is in part a follow up to last week's interview with Julie M Green

Mentioned in episode:
Book Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy* (and her Instagram)

AuDHD Flourishing resources:
Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)
Mattia's Newsletter
Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)

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Julie M. Green is the author of Motherness: A Memoir of Generational Autism, Parenthood, and Radical Acceptance.
She shares about how difficult early parenthood was, how different her autism presents versus her kid's, and navigating school and regulation skills.
The book is a vulnerable look at some of the challenging and lighthearted moments of raising an autistic kid.

Connect with Julie:
Her book Motherness: A Memoir of Generational Autism, Parenthood, and Radical Acceptance
Website: juliemgreen.ca
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliem.green
Substack: https://theautisticmom.substack.com/

AuDHD Flourishing resources:
Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)
Mattia's Newsletter
Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)

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