Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

How often do you mistake the story in your head for the truth?
In this deeply insightful coaching session, Christine works with Shannon, who has spent much of her life feeling like she's waiting for people to leave her.
Growing up with a mother struggling with severe mental illness and a father who was absent for most of her life due to incarceration, Shannon learned to survive by becoming hypervigilant. Now, as an adult, those same survival strategies show up in her closest relationships.
A small comment from her partner becomes evidence that he's leaving.
A text message that goes unanswered becomes proof she's being rejected.
A misunderstanding quickly spirals into a painful story about not being enough.
Together, Christine and Shannon explore anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, childhood survival strategies, and one of the most powerful communication tools you can use to interrupt emotional spirals before they damage your relationships.
Christine reminds us that message sent is not always message received—and that many of the stories we create during moments of fear have far more to do with our past than with what's actually happening in the present.
If you've ever caught yourself assuming the worst, overthinking someone's words, or convincing yourself that people are pulling away without real evidence, this episode will help you slow down, seek clarity, and respond from your adult self instead of your wounded inner child.
Press play to learn how changing one simple phrase can transform your relationships—and your peace of mind.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Do you often assume the worst when someone says or does something unexpected?
Are you making decisions based on facts—or on stories your fear is creating?
Do you struggle to know whether you're truly being hurt or simply being triggered?
What would change if you asked for clarity instead of making assumptions?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Childhood abandonment wounds can create hypervigilance in adult relationships.
Survival strategies that once protected you may now be creating distance from the people you love.
Triggers often distort reality, causing us to assign meaning that was never intended.
Vulnerability creates connection; assumptions create isolation.
Healthy relationships require clarification—not mind reading.
How to Deepen the Work
Practice using the phrases: "The story I'm making up in my head is..." and "What I'm making this mean is..."before reacting.
Notice when your nervous system jumps to worst-case scenarios and pause before taking action.
Give trusted people the opportunity to clarify their intentions before assuming rejection.
Remember that seeking clarification is an act of self-advocacy, not weakness.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode
One-on-One Coaching with Christine
Christine shares that she's opening additional one-on-one coaching spots, returning to what she calls "the basics"—real human connection, personalized guidance, and transformational coaching.
To learn more, email:
Jill@ChristineHassler.com
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe designed to support natural foot movement, strengthen the feet, and provide all-day comfort.
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Social Media + Resources:
 Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Christine on Facebook
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
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What happens when the person you've always been no longer feels like the person you're becoming?
In this deeply thoughtful coaching session, Christine works with Gihan, who is navigating the space between her cultural and familial identity and the life her soul feels called to create.
Living with her mother in Cairo, Gihan has been on a healing journey that has challenged old patterns of people-pleasing and encouraged her to question what she truly wants. She feels drawn toward a simpler life—possibly living abroad, spending more time near the beach, and creating a life that feels authentic to her.
But that desire brings up a difficult question: Does she genuinely want a different life, or is she simply trying to escape the discomfort of becoming a different version of herself?
As Christine and Gihan explore that question, the conversation moves into belonging, identity, family, spirituality, and the tension that can arise when your soul seems to be pulling you in a direction that looks different from the life, culture, or expectations you were born into.
Christine offers an important reframe: transformation doesn't always have to be an either/or decision. Sometimes the path forward is both/and—honoring where you came from while also remaining loyal to where your soul is leading you.
If you've ever felt caught between who you've been and who you're becoming, questioned whether following your truth means leaving something—or someone—behind, or struggled to honor both your spirituality and your humanity, this conversation will resonate.
Press play to discover how you can follow your soul without abandoning the human parts of you that still need belonging, compassion, and connection.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Do you feel caught between the identity you've always known and the person you're becoming?
Are you questioning whether a desire for change is intuition—or an attempt to escape discomfort?
Do you fear that choosing your own path could cost you belonging, connection, or approval?
Where are you thinking in either/or terms when a both/and approach may be possible?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Transformation often requires a period of not fully knowing who you're becoming.
Choosing a different path can activate a primal fear of losing belonging.
Your soul's desires and your human needs don't have to be mutually exclusive.
Spiritual growth doesn't require bypassing difficult human emotions like judgment, fear, jealousy, or uncertainty.
Authenticity isn't about becoming a perfect version of yourself—it's about becoming more genuine.
Our judgments can become powerful teachers when we get curious about what they're reflecting back to us.
How to Deepen the Work
Notice when you're framing a decision as either/or and ask whether there's a both/and possibility.
When judgment arises, practice acknowledging it without shame and asking what it may be showing you about yourself.
Offer compassion to the human parts of you that feel afraid when your soul calls you toward something unfamiliar.
Give yourself permission to be in the middle of transformation without needing to immediately define your new identity.
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to encourage natural foot movement while providing cushioning for everyday movement, fitness, and athletic activities.
Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair.
Shop Peluva through Christine's link
Social Media + Resources:
 Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Christine on Facebook
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
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How do you protect your child without living in constant fear?
In this deeply compassionate coaching session, Christine works with Shelley, whose journey through chronic illness, mold toxicity, Lyme disease, fertility challenges, and becoming a new mother has left her feeling trapped in a cycle of hypervigilance around environmental toxins.
What began as a genuine desire to keep her daughter safe has slowly become an exhausting mental prison.
Every trip to the grocery store feels overwhelming. Every product label raises questions. Every social media post from health experts seems to introduce a new threat. Instead of enjoying motherhood, Shelley finds herself consumed by worry and worst-case scenarios.
As Christine gently unpacks the deeper layers beneath the anxiety, a powerful truth emerges: Shelley's hypervigilance isn't the problem—it's a protective part of her that developed after years of trauma, illness, and uncertainty.
Together they explore Parts Work (Internal Family Systems), nervous system regulation, motherhood, chronic illness recovery, intuition, and the difference between living from awareness versus living from fear.
If you've ever found yourself obsessing over health, constantly researching the next thing to worry about, or feeling like your mind has become consumed by trying to control the uncontrollable, this episode offers a compassionate path back to peace.
Press play to discover how trusting yourself—and allowing love to become louder than fear—can help you step out of survival mode and back into your life.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Do you spend so much time trying to protect yourself or your loved ones that it's difficult to enjoy the present moment?
Has your search for health information become a source of anxiety instead of empowerment?
Are you constantly scanning for what could go wrong instead of appreciating what is going well?
What would change if you trusted your intuition more than your fear?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Hypervigilance is often a protective response born from trauma—not a character flaw.
Information becomes overwhelming when fear is driving the search for certainty.
You don't need to eliminate your protective parts—you can simply give them a new role.
Awareness is empowering; obsession is exhausting.
Raising your inner sense of safety can be just as important as reducing external risks.
How to Deepen the Work
Notice when your protective part is taking over and gently thank it for trying to keep you safe.
Limit exposure to fear-based content that keeps your nervous system activated.
Spend intentional time strengthening the parts of yourself that feel creative, joyful, intuitive, and present.
Practice speaking words of trust, health, and resilience over yourself and your loved ones.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to strengthen the feet, encourage natural movement, and support overall foot health.
Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair.
Visit: https://affiliate.peluva.com/CHRISTINE
Social Media + Resources:
 Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Christine on Facebook
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
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Have you ever felt like you've done all the inner work... yet one fear refuses to leave?
In this compassionate and eye-opening coaching session, Christine works with Ilaria, who has spent years in therapy, practicing breathwork, nervous system regulation, and inner child healing. Yet one fear continues to consume her: the overwhelming fear of losing her parents.
As she approaches her mid-thirties and begins thinking about creating a life of her own—finding a partner, becoming more independent, and stepping into her future—the fear grows even stronger.
Why?
Because underneath the anxiety isn't simply a fear of loss. It's a younger part of her that believes worrying is the only way to protect the people she loves.
Christine introduces Ilaria to the powerful framework of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Parts Work, helping her recognize that this fear isn't all of who she is—it's one protective part that's been trying to keep her safe since childhood.
Together they explore acceptance, self-compassion, nervous system healing, and why sometimes the greatest breakthrough comes not from trying harder to fix ourselves, but from changing how we relate to the parts of us that are hurting.
If you've ever felt trapped by anxiety, worried constantly about the people you love, or wondered why years of healing haven't made a particular fear disappear, this episode offers a deeply hopeful new perspective.
Press play to discover how accepting your fear—rather than fighting it—may be the very thing that finally brings you peace.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Is there a fear you've been trying to eliminate for years without success?
Do you constantly worry about losing the people you love?
Have you confused your anxiety with your identity?
Could one protective part of you be trying to keep you safe in the only way it knows how?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Anxiety doesn't define you—it may simply be one protective part of your inner world.
Healing isn't always about eliminating fear; sometimes it's about changing your relationship to it.
Love and fear often become intertwined, making it difficult to experience one without the other.
Parts Work (IFS) helps create compassion for protective patterns instead of fighting against them.
Nothing truly heals through judgment—acceptance creates space for transformation.
How to Deepen the Work
Notice when fear shows up, and gently ask yourself, "Which part of me is speaking right now?"
Practice separating your identity from your anxious thoughts: "This is a part of me, not all of me."
Explore Parts Work or Internal Family Systems with a trained practitioner if this approach resonates.
Allow yourself to fully experience love without assuming fear must always accompany it.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to strengthen the feet, encourage natural movement, and improve overall foot health.
Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair.
Visit: https://affiliate.peluva.com/CHRISTINE
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Christine recommends learning more about Parts Work (Internal Family Systems) and references her previous podcast conversation with Richard Schwartz, the founder of IFS, along with his book:
No Bad Parts
These resources offer a deeper understanding of how protective parts shape our emotional lives and how compassion can create lasting healing.
Social Media + Resources:
 Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Christine on Facebook
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
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Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions of suicide, the loss of a child, emotional abuse, and narcissistic relationship dynamics. Please care for yourself and listen only if it feels supportive.
What do you do when you're grieving the unimaginable... and someone you once trusted continues to cause harm in the aftermath?
In this profoundly moving coaching session, Christine sits down with Mary, whose teenage son died by suicide just nine months ago. As she navigates the heartbreaking reality of losing her child, Mary finds herself confronting another devastating challenge: discovering that her ex-husband has publicly misrepresented their son's cause of death while using his memory to promote a charitable foundation.
For years, Mary lived in fear of speaking her truth during an emotionally abusive marriage. Now, she's faced with a painful question: Can she find the courage to use her voice—not from anger or revenge, but from love, integrity, and a desire to honor her son's legacy?
Together, Christine and Mary explore grief, trauma, narcissistic abuse, reclaiming personal power, and the delicate balance between seeking justice and protecting your own peace. Their conversation is a powerful reminder that healing doesn't require silence—and that telling the truth can be an act of profound love.
Whether you've experienced deep loss, struggled to find your voice after an abusive relationship, or wondered how to move forward when life feels unbearably unfair, this episode offers compassion, validation, and hope.
Press play to hear a courageous conversation about honoring truth, reclaiming your voice, and allowing both grief and joy to coexist.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Have you ever stayed silent because you were afraid of someone else's reaction?
Do you struggle to trust your own voice after experiencing manipulation or emotional abuse?
Are you carrying grief while also trying to rebuild your life?
Can you allow yourself to experience moments of joy without feeling guilty?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Grief and joy are not opposites—they can exist together.
Years of emotional abuse can disconnect you from your own inner knowing.
Speaking your truth doesn't require anger; it can come from love and integrity.
Healing often begins when we stop abandoning our own voice.
You are not responsible for another person's choices, but you are responsible for honoring your own truth.
How to Deepen the Work
Notice where fear may still be preventing you from expressing your truth.
Practice asking yourself, "What feels true for me?" before seeking external validation.
Allow yourself to receive support from trusted friends, professionals, or your community.
Remember that choosing joy does not diminish your love for someone you've lost.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares why she recommends Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to support natural foot movement, comfort, and long-term foot health.
Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair.
Visit: https://affiliate.peluva.com/CHRISTINE
 
Seeking Pro Bono Legal Support
Mary is currently seeking legal representation regarding the misuse of her son's memory and charitable foundation. If you are an attorney—or know someone who may be willing to assist on a pro bono basis—Christine invites you to contact her team.
Email: assist@christinehassler.com
Social Media + Resources:
 Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Christine on Facebook
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Twitter
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
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