Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

What if part of you wants success—but another part believes achieving it will cost you your health, relationships, or well-being?
In this insightful coaching session, Christine works with Maya, an ambitious entrepreneur who knows she's capable of achieving big things in her career. But after years of professional success coincided with increasing health challenges, Maya has begun to associate achievement with stress, exhaustion, and physical suffering.
Now, as she intentionally slows down and prioritizes her health, she notices something surprising: the better she begins to feel, the more she slips back into old habits. It's almost as if part of her doesn't want to fully recover—because getting better might mean returning to the same version of success that depleted her in the first place.
Christine helps Maya reframe what looks like self-sabotage as protection.
As they explore Maya's childhood, another layer emerges. Health challenges were present from a young age, while success was modeled as something that required hard work and sacrifice. Maya also remembers desperately wanting friendship, belonging, and romantic attention as a young girl—only to experience rejection and disappointment.
Could a younger part of her have learned that putting herself out there isn't safe?
Together, Christine and Maya explore the connection between physical health and emotional patterns, subconscious protection, childhood experiences, belonging, success, relationships, and the possibility that we don't have to choose between thriving professionally and thriving personally.
If you've ever said, "I know what I want, so why do I keep getting in my own way?" this conversation offers a compassionate alternative: perhaps you aren't sabotaging yourself at all. Perhaps a younger part of you is simply trying to keep you safe using an outdated strategy.
Press play to explore how curiosity, compassion, and working with—not against—your protective parts can begin creating a new definition of success.

Consider / Ask Yourself
Do you unconsciously associate success with stress, overworking, or self-sacrifice?
Do you believe you have to choose between your health and your ambitions?
Is there something you consciously want but continually find yourself resisting?
When something fulfilling is followed by discomfort, do you automatically conclude that you shouldn't have done it?
Could what you've labeled "self-sabotage" actually be a protective pattern trying to keep you safe?

Key Insights and A-Ha's
What looks like self-sabotage may actually be a subconscious attempt at protection.
We can consciously want something while a younger part of us associates getting it with pain, rejection, exhaustion, or danger.
Early health challenges can influence how safe or reliable we believe our bodies are.
The way success was modeled in childhood can shape whether we associate achievement with ease or with sacrifice and overwork.
Experiences of rejection and not belonging can create protective patterns around relationships, visibility, and putting ourselves out into the world.
Physical and emotional experiences don't always have to be viewed separately; Christine encourages a holistic approach that considers both.
When discomfort follows an enjoyable experience, immediately deciding "I shouldn't have done that" can reinforce an existing protective pattern.
Both the part that wants expansion and the part that wants to retreat may ultimately be trying to create safety, health, and happiness.
Our conscious adult self may feel ready for something while a younger part of us still needs reassurance.

How to Deepen the Work
When resistance appears, get curious instead of immediately trying to override it.
Ask the protective part: "What are you afraid will happen if I do this?"
Explore: "What does this remind you of?"
When you're experiencing physical discomfort, focus on what your body needs rather than immediately connecting the symptoms to something enjoyable you recently did.
Notice when you're telling yourself, "I shouldn't have done that," and consider whether that story is reinforcing an old pattern.
Explore both physical and emotional avenues of support rather than assuming everything has a single cause.
Begin creating a new definition of success that includes health, relationships, connection, and well-being rather than requiring sacrifice.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode
Love Block Quiz
Christine and her husband created a free Love Block Quiz to help identify subconscious blocks that may be getting in the way of calling in the relationship you desire.
Take Christine's free Love Block Quiz
Be the Queen
Christine and her husband teach Be the Queen for women who are ready to call in healthy, aligned partnership and explore the conscious, subconscious, energetic, and relational patterns that may be affecting their love lives.
Christine is currently taking names for the early-bird interest list, which includes access to a special early-bird discount before the program launches.
Join the Be the Queen interest list
One-on-One Coaching with Christine
Christine shares that she currently has space for a couple more private coaching clients for those interested in deeper individualized work.
Learn more about one-on-one coaching with Christine

Social Media + Resources
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
Facebook — Christine Hassler
Instagram — @ChristineHassler
Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples
Apply to be coached on the show
Courses, retreats, and more resources

What happens when someone you love finally seems to have changed—only for an old, painful pattern to suddenly come back?
In this deeply relatable coaching session, Christine works with Haley, who grew up with a verbally and emotionally abusive father. After a period of having no relationship with him, the two spent the last five years rebuilding their connection. Haley began to genuinely enjoy being around her father and finally felt loved and supported by him.
Then one painful conflict changed everything.
After Haley stood up for her younger sister, she saw a side of her father she hadn't seen in years. Suddenly, she was transported back to the fear, hurt, and confusion she experienced as a child. The relationship she thought had changed no longer felt as safe or stable as she believed.
Christine helps Haley explore the painful reality of what happens when someone shows signs of growth but reverts to old behaviors the moment we disagree, set a boundary, or stop behaving the way they want us to.
Together, they explore narcissistic traits, emotionally abusive family dynamics, accountability, boundaries, grieving the parent you wanted, and the difference between someone's potential and the reality of what they're actually capable of relationally.
For Haley, the deeper work may not be figuring out how to get her father to understand. It may be finding her own voice, trusting her inner authority, protecting her peace, and letting go of the hope that saying something perfectly will finally create the response she's always wanted.
If you've ever rebuilt a relationship only to have an old pattern return, this conversation is a powerful reminder that the good moments don't necessarily have to be fake—but they also don't erase what happens when conflict, boundaries, or individuation enter the relationship.
Press play to explore how accepting someone's limitations can help you stop fighting for their potential and start choosing your own peace.

Consider / Ask Yourself
Have you believed someone changed, only to see an old painful behavior suddenly return?
Are you still hoping that if you explain yourself clearly enough, someone will finally understand your perspective?
Did you learn as a child that staying quiet was the safest way to avoid conflict?
Are you investing more energy in someone's potential than in the reality of how they consistently show up?
What would choosing your own peace look like if the other person never takes accountability or apologizes?

Key Insights and A-Ha's
People can have genuinely good periods and still have limited capacity for healthy conflict and repair.
One of the clearest tests of a relationship can be what happens when you disagree, say no, set a boundary, or stop organizing yourself around another person's emotional needs.
When a child grows up around emotionally abusive or narcissistic traits, speaking up may feel unsafe even in adulthood.
Trying harder to make someone understand you can repeat the childhood pattern of fighting for validation and approval.
Healthy relational repair requires the capacity for responsibility, accountability, empathy, and apology.
Understanding someone's limitations can help you manage your expectations and make more self-honoring choices.
The "good" moments don't necessarily mean someone has fundamentally changed—and the painful moments don't necessarily mean every good moment was fake.
Sometimes peace comes from accepting what a relationship actually is rather than continuing to fight for what you wish it could become.
Potential isn't the same thing as reality.

How to Deepen the Work
Learn more about narcissistic traits and emotionally unhealthy relationship patterns so you can better understand what may—and may not—be possible in the relationship.
Ask yourself whether you're speaking because it's important for your own integrity or because you're hoping to finally make the other person understand.
If repair is necessary, consider what you can genuinely take responsibility for without apologizing for something that would feel like self-betrayal.
Notice when you're tempted to overexplain, defend yourself, or prove your perspective.
Grieve the idealized version of the parent or relationship you hoped you could have.
Redirect energy away from trying to change someone and toward relationships where accountability, empathy, and mutual effort are possible.
Ask yourself: "What do I need to choose for my own peace?"

Resources Mentioned in This Episode
Be the Queen
Christine and her husband are opening the doors to Be the Queen again in April. The program is designed for women who want to call in healthy, soul-aligned partnership and stop unconsciously attracting relationships based on patterns from their past.
Join the early-bird notification list for special pricing and additional resources:
Learn more about Be the Queen
Coaches Corner with Rebecca Zung
Christine references her previous conversation with Rebecca Zung about narcissism and navigating relationships with high-conflict people. She recommends revisiting this episode for additional insight into why defending yourself may become an exhausting and unproductive use of your energy in certain relational dynamics.
Listen to Christine's Coaches Corner with Rebecca Zung
Dr. Ramani
Christine also recommends exploring the work of Dr. Ramani Durvasula for additional education about narcissism, narcissistic traits, and narcissistic relationships.

Social Media + Resources
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
Facebook — Christine Hassler
Instagram — @ChristineHassler
Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples
Apply to be coached on the show
Courses, retreats, and more resources

What do you do when everything feels hard, nothing feels particularly good, and you no longer trust that the things you've always wanted are actually going to happen?
In this deeply reflective coaching session, Christine works with Jeni, who has spent the last three years navigating an overwhelming season of loss and change. A relationship ended. A new relationship that made her feel truly seen also ended. The job she loved came to an end. Her beloved cat was diagnosed with cancer. Her friend group disappeared. And at the same time, hormonal changes and perimenopause made it harder to simply push through life the way she always had.
But as Christine explores Jeni's story, it becomes clear that this feeling didn't begin three years ago. Underneath the recent losses is a much older belief: that who Jeni naturally is isn't quite good enough.
Growing up, Jeni learned that love, approval, and connection often depended on behaving the "right" way. Over time, people-pleasing and self-judgment disconnected her from her own inner compass. When you're continually taught—directly or indirectly—that your preferences, feelings, or choices are wrong, it becomes difficult to trust yourself at all.
Christine helps Jeni recognize that what feels like being stuck may actually be an invitation to reclaim herself. Rather than searching for another external solution, this season may be asking her to stop relating to herself the way she was related to as a child.
And that doesn't require one enormous breakthrough.
Healing can happen through tiny moments of awareness, compassion, self-acceptance, and choosing differently. Sometimes the biggest transformation begins with simply noticing the pattern instead of automatically believing it.
If life has felt gray lately, if you've lost faith in what you once wanted, or if you're exhausted from trying to fix yourself, this episode offers a compassionate reminder that you don't have to figure everything out today.
Press play to explore how small, consistent acts of self-trust and self-love can begin reconnecting you with the person you've always been underneath the protective patterns.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Does life feel harder or "grayer" than it used to?
Did you grow up believing you needed to behave a certain way to receive love, approval, or acceptance?
Do you struggle to trust your own desires, opinions, or decisions?
Are you highly critical of yourself because you learned early that who you naturally were wasn't enough?
Are you waiting for a massive breakthrough instead of acknowledging the smaller steps you're already taking?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Major seasons of loss can reveal patterns and wounds that have been operating underneath the surface for years.
People-pleasing can disconnect us from our own inner compass and make it difficult to know or trust what we truly want.
When children don't feel fully accepted, they may conclude that something is wrong with them rather than recognizing the limitations of their caregivers.
Constant self-judgment can develop from trying to figure out how to become "good enough" to receive love and validation.
What feels like depression or emotional grayness can sometimes include years of repressed feelings and suppressed self-expression.
Protective patterns may resist healing because familiar discomfort can feel safer than an unknown future.
Healing doesn't require a dramatic breakthrough. Small moments of awareness and safety matter.
Reparenting means choosing not to continue relating to yourself in the same ways you were related to as a child.
Acceptance and forward movement can coexist: you can accept where you are while still committing to the next step.
How to Deepen the Work
Notice when you're criticizing yourself without immediately trying to stop the criticism. Begin simply with: "I'm criticizing myself right now."
Once that awareness becomes easier, try adding: "I forgive myself for criticizing myself."
Eventually, ask: "What else could I tell myself right now?"
Write your own "parenting manual" for yourself. How do you want to respond when you're scared, triggered, disappointed, or judging yourself?
When fear arises during deeper emotional work, consider whether the fear actually means "stop" or whether it's a protective part responding to something unfamiliar.
Celebrate small moments when you stay present with a difficult emotion instead of expecting yourself to have a massive breakthrough.
Practice giving yourself a little more love, understanding, compassion, and patience today than you did yesterday.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode
One-on-One Coaching with Christine
Christine has opened her roster to additional private coaching clients. If you're navigating a season where everything feels difficult, you're experiencing significant loss or transition, or you're ready to explore deeper patterns with personalized support, you can learn more about working directly with Christine.
Learn more about one-on-one coaching with Christine
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares more about Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe featuring individual toe articulation designed to support more natural movement and a barefoot-style experience.
Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair.
Shop Peluva through Christine's link

Social Media + Resources
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
Facebook — Christine Hassler
Instagram — @ChristineHassler
Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples
Apply to be coached on the show
Courses, retreats, and more resources

What if you're saying exactly what you mean—but somehow you're still not getting the connection you want?
In this insightful coaching session, Christine works with Gaby, a self-described direct communicator who has become increasingly disappointed by the way friends and family respond when she tries to address hurt feelings or problems in their relationships.
After becoming a mother, Gaby found herself less willing to tolerate behaviors that didn't feel good to her. She began speaking up more clearly, expecting that honesty would open the door to deeper conversations and stronger relationships. Instead, many of the people closest to her seemed to retreat, become defensive, or avoid the conversation altogether.
That leaves Gaby wondering: If I'm the common denominator, am I the problem?
Christine offers a different perspective. Gaby's directness isn't necessarily the problem—but the order of her communication may be getting in the way of what she actually wants: connection.
Together, they explore emotional validation, vulnerability, defensiveness, motherhood, inner child healing, and the difference between communicating what's true and communicating it in a way another person can actually receive. Christine introduces a simple but powerful framework: connection first. Connect before you correct. Connect before you ask. Connect before you collaborate.
If you've ever thought, "But I'm just being honest," only to have someone become defensive or shut down, this conversation will help you understand why—and give you practical language for approaching difficult conversations differently.
Press play to learn how adding vulnerability, curiosity, and connection to your directness can help you communicate your needs without abandoning your truth.
Consider / Ask Yourself
Do you pride yourself on being direct but often find that other people become defensive?
When you're hurt, are you communicating because you want connection—or because you want the other person to understand what they did wrong?
Did you grow up feeling emotionally validated, seen, and supported when someone hurt you?
Are you offering solutions when the person in front of you may simply want to be heard?
Are you asking the right people to meet your emotional needs—or going to the proverbial "Chinese restaurant when you want nachos"?
Key Insights and A-Ha's
Being direct doesn't automatically create connection.
Sometimes what we want more than a solution is simply to feel seen.
A lifetime of not feeling emotionally validated can make being understood feel especially important in adult relationships.
Directness without enough vulnerability or curiosity can unintentionally activate defensiveness.
The phrases "The story I'm making up in my head is..." and "What I'm making that mean is..." can help create personal responsibility while lowering another person's defensiveness.
Connecting before correcting, asking, or collaborating can completely change the tone of a difficult conversation.
Part of inner child healing is learning how to communicate as an adult in ways that make it more likely our needs will be met.
Even excellent communication can't guarantee someone will meet you emotionally. Discernment about who is capable of giving you what you need still matters.
How to Deepen the Work
Before an important conversation, ask yourself: "How can I connect with this person first?"
Experiment with replacing accusations or conclusions with curiosity: "The story I'm making up in my head is..."
When someone shares a struggle with you, pause before offering a solution and consider whether they may simply need validation.
Notice whether anger or hurt is leading your communication. Give those feelings a healthy place to be expressed before entering the conversation.
Practice taking responsibility for your side of the communication without taking responsibility for the other person's response.
Remember Christine's framework: connection first, connection first, connection first.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode
One-on-One Coaching with Christine
Christine has opened a few additional spots in her private coaching practice for people who want individualized support, validation, and transformational coaching.
Learn more and apply at:
christinehassler.com/coaching
Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes
Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe designed to provide a barefoot-style experience while still offering cushioning for everyday movement, fitness, and athletic activities. Its individual five-toe articulation allows each toe to move separately and supports more natural foot movement.
Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair.
Shop Peluva through Christine's link
 
Social Media + Resources
Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
Facebook — Christine Hassler
Instagram — @ChristineHassler
Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples
Apply to be coached on the show: christinehassler.com/waitlist
Courses, retreats, and more resources: christinehassler.com

Sarah Tacy Tangredi is a nervous system specialist and somatic guide for moms who are done with burnout and overfunctioning. She helps clients move from urgency to choice, from survival patterns to deep self-trust, and into a more human pace where vitality, clarity, and mystery can coexist.
Her work blends neuroscience, somatic healing, and sacred strategy to support women in reclaiming their wholeness. She's the creator of Resourced a 12 Week nervous system repatterning journey, and host of the Threshold Moments podcast, known for her grounded presence and ability to hold space for what's real, raw, and ready to rise.
Sarah is an evolving mother, wife, and friend. She believes that the body is always speaking to us, and if we can create space and support on as many dimensions as possible, repair and transformation will unfold.
Join her for a free online event on Sept 10th called "Opting Out of Urgency" that will help you move from chronic over-responsibility and rush to choice and ease.
Register here:
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