The Inspired Life Podcast

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You've read the books. Done the courses. Sat in therapy — maybe for years. And you're still repeating the same unhealthy patterns: the same fights, the same money blocks, the same relationship you keep finding in a different person. That's not a lack of effort. It's because you've only ever addressed 20% of the equation.
In this video I break down why success and change is 20% skills and 80% identity — and why almost every self-help resource you've consumed only ever teaches the 20%. I show you the three things you actually need to understand to change your identity for good: what your identity actually is, why every pattern and behaviour you repeat is your identity working exactly as designed, and why your triggers aren't random — they're a direct mirror to what's still unhealed inside you.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:
Why success is 20% skills and 80% identity, and why almost all self-development content only teaches the 20%
The difference between your authentic self and your "human identity" — your mind, nervous system, beliefs, and conditioning — and why your identity is what actually drives your behaviour
Why you never self-sabotage — you realign to how you view yourself to be
The Projector Principle: why your life is a projection of your identity, and why trying to change your circumstances without changing yourself never works
Why triggers aren't threats — they're mirrors revealing exactly what still needs to be healed
Why therapy often treats the symptom (the pattern) instead of the root cause (the identity underneath it), and what to do instead
You are not broken, and you are not lazy for still repeating these patterns after everything you've tried. You've been doing inner work at the surface level. Until you actually change your identity — not just your information — you will keep recreating the same reality. That's the work. That's what this video is about.
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Work with me for free: https://www.skool.com/inspired-life-method-9441/Have you done all the "right" things after a breakup, therapy, journaling, no contact, and still feel stuck months later? Most breakup advice online falls into one of two extremes: delusional (every ex comes back if you just do the right things) or bitter (cut them off, they were always a red flag, never look back). Neither one actually teaches you how to heal.In this episode I sit down with breakup and relationship coach Cole Zesiger, who has coached over 2,000 people through heartbreak, to break down the exact process that took him from two back to back breakups at rock bottom to the life and marriage he has now.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:The 4 step Renewal Framework Cole used to rebuild his life after divorce and a second breakupWhy chasing achievement and external validation will always leave you feeling empty, and what actually fixes itThe dependency paradox, and why having a secure partner makes you achieve more, not lessThe three non-negotiables every healthy relationship actually needs to lastHow to know you're really ready to date again, and why forgiveness alone isn't the finish lineYou are not behind, and none of the healing you've already done was wasted, even the parts that felt like they broke you. Every ending you have survived has quietly been building the version of you who is capable of a real, lasting love. That version of you is closer than you think.Drop your biggest takeaway in the comments below. Subscribe for weekly content on healing, identity, and creating a life you actually love.

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Do you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different face? Same fights, same walls going up, same partner who feels distant even when they're right in front of you. If this keeps happening no matter who you're with, it isn't bad luck. It's unhealed childhood trauma running the show.
In this video I break down why your triggers are never really about the other person, and I walk you through the exact four step process I use with my paid clients to find and heal the root cause.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:
Why childhood trauma controls your relationship patterns without you realizing it
The real reason people and situations trigger you, and why it's never actually about them
The ARIA Method, a four step process to identify and heal your triggers at the root
How to regulate your nervous system in the moment you get triggered, before you react
The exact questions to ask yourself to find what a trigger is really revealing
You are not broken and you are not too much. You are patterned, and patterns can be unlearned. The relationship you want is available to you the moment you stop repeating the one you were taught.
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Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells in your own relationship, waiting for the next fight to start over the same thing it always does? That exhausted, on-edge feeling isn't a flaw in you or a flaw in your partner. It's a nervous system that's never learned how to feel safe.
In this video I'm breaking down the three skills that build real emotional safety, both within yourself and in how you choose a partner, so you stop repeating the same arguments and start creating the connection you're actually worthy of.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:
What emotional safety actually is and why it starts with your nervous system, not your partner
The three zones of your nervous system and how to recognize when you've left your window of tolerance
A simple breathing technique to regulate yourself in the moment you feel triggered
Why integration work matters more than constant regulation, and how healing old wounds stops the trigger before it starts
How to communicate what's happening inside you so you and your partner can get on the same page instead of repeating the same fight
You are not broken. You are patterned. And patterns can be healed. The more emotional capacity you build, the less you'll find yourself triggered, defensive, or shut down, and the more you'll be able to show up as the version of you that's capable of real, lasting love.
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Are you thinking about reaching out to your ex but scared of doing it wrong and pushing them further away? Most people try to get their ex back with scripts, mind games, or pure convincing, and it backfires every time. The truth is your ex isn't the problem you need to solve first.
In this video I walk you through the three honest questions you need to answer before you even think about reconciling, plus the exact conversation I would have if I were trying to get back with my partner today.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:
Why manipulation and convincing scripts almost never bring your ex back for good
The first thing to fix in yourself before you attempt reconciliation
How to know if you and your ex are actually aligned on your non-negotiables
Why repeating the same fights means the real work hasn't started yet
A word for word script for reopening the conversation with your ex
You are not broken and you are not too far gone to have the relationship you want. Every pattern that pushed your ex away can be healed, and every relationship, including this one, can become a mirror for the growth you were always capable of. This is available to you the moment you choose to do the work.
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