The Inspired Life Podcast

Work with me for free: https://www.skool.com/inspired-life-method-9441/He was $250,000 in debt, living in his car, and suicidal. He watched two friends get killed in a drive-by shooting and somehow walked away alive. Then one night, he posted the raw, unfiltered truth about his life on Facebook — and received a message from a stranger who said: "I put the gun down when I read your post." That was the moment Garrain Ashe found his purpose.In this episode, I sit down with one of my very first mentors — transformational leader, inner child whisperer, and founder of Artist Power, Garrain Ashe — to explore what it truly means to heal, lead, and live as your most authentic self.✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:→ Why "adults are just deteriorated children" — and how reconnecting with your inner child unlocks everything you've been chasing→ The 4-step framework for emotional sovereignty so you stop being controlled by fear, media, and your past conditioning→ The "magical unlock" — Garrain's signature tool for creating an instant identity shift in under 2 minutes→ How to build a relationship with yourself (and your partner) that leaves nothing unsaid — including Garrain's weekly "Love Meeting" practice→ Why community immersion supercharges your growth faster than any solo self-development strategy ever willIf you've done the work, read the books, and still feel like something is blocking you — this conversation will show you what's actually in the way. Your healing doesn't start when life gets easier. It starts the moment you stop running from the little kid inside who just wants to be seen.👇 Drop your biggest takeaway in the comments below.🔔 Subscribe for weekly content on healing, identity, and creating a life you actually love.Garrain's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/garrainase/

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If you keep destroying good relationships — pushing people away, blowing things up right when they're going well, repeating the same painful patterns — you don't have a relationship problem. You have an identity problem. And there's a way out.
In this episode I break down the real reason you self-sabotage in relationships: your identity, your patterns, and what your triggers are actually revealing about your unhealed past. Then I walk you through my four-step ARRI Framework — the exact process I use with clients to finally break these cycles at the root.
✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:→ The 3-part framework (Identity → Patterns → Triggers) that explains why you keep repeating the same relationship cycles→ Why your triggers aren't your partner's fault — and what they're actually revealing about you→ How to identify the root cause of your relationship sabotage through your reactions to people you love→ The ARRI Framework: Awareness, Regulation, Reflection, Integration — the four steps to stop these patterns for good→ How to use this process with your partner so you can grow and heal together
Most people try to fix the pattern. The real work is fixing the identity underneath it. Once you do, the triggers stop. The cycles stop. The relationship changes — because you change.
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What happens when two people who've lived through completely different forms of chaos — find each other and decide to do the work together?
Ben Lowe spent 15 years deep in meth addiction, sold drugs, and served 4 years in prison. Tiarny Strachan survived domestic violence — financial abuse, emotional control, isolation — and spent years rebuilding her identity from nothing. Today, they're partners, parents, and coaches helping men break cycles of addiction and women reclaim their self-worth after chaos.
This conversation will challenge what you think you know about abuse, addiction, hyper-independence, and what it actually takes to build a healthy relationship when both people carry wounds.
✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:
→ The signs of emotional, financial, and coercive abuse that have nothing to do with physical violence→ Why strong, independent women are not immune to abusive relationships — and what actually changes→ How Ben hit his lowest point (crashed car, black eye, son watching) and made the decision to change for good→ The "mirror effect" — how your partner reveals the parts of you that are still unhealed→ What rupture and repair looks like in a real relationship — practical tools for conflict, triggers, and reconnection→ Why hyper-independence is a trauma response, not a superpower — and how to soften into love without losing yourself→ How to set boundaries when you don't yet know who you are→ What it actually looks like to raise a blended family with conscious intention
You don't just stumble into a healthy relationship. You build the version of yourself that can hold one — and then you find each other.
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Ben's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/benlowecoaching/
Tiarny's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiarnyls/

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If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners — or you know deep down that you're the one who's been emotionally unavailable — this video is going to change everything. Most people try to fix their relationships from the outside. But the real shift happens when you understand why you're the one drawing this pattern into your life in the first place.I've coached over 10,000 people through this exact process. And what I know for certain is this: the pattern doesn't break until YOU do the inner work first.✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:→ The 3 things you need to become aware of before anything else can change (identity, patterns, and triggers)→ Why past hurt creates future fear — and how it's silently running your relationships right now→ What emotional hygiene actually is and why it's non-negotiable for emotional availability→ How to do the integration work that most people skip (and why skipping it keeps you stuck)→ A simple, honest way to communicate with your partner that creates alignment — without control or ultimatumsYou are not broken. You are not cursed. You are a projector — and your relationships are the projection. If you want to change what you're attracting, you have to change the projector. This video shows you exactly how.👇 Drop your biggest takeaway in the comments below. I read every single one.🔔 Subscribe for weekly content on healing, identity, and creating a life you actually love.

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If your relationships keep falling apart, if you keep attracting the same toxic dynamics, if you're anxious, avoidant, or pushing good people away — your trauma is running the show. And until you address it at the root, nothing changes. Not the person you date, not how hard you try, not how much you know.
In this episode, I break down exactly why your past wounds are showing up in your relationships — and I give you my 4-step framework to stop it. This is what my clients pay me for. You're getting it free.
✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:→ The Identity Model — how your mind and nervous system are creating your relationship patterns without you knowing→ Why your triggers are mirrors, not problems — and what they're actually revealing about your unhealed wounds→ The Parent & Partner Exercise — a rapid tool to identify your exact wounds in under 5 minutes→ The 4-Step Framework: Awareness → Regulate → Reflect → Integrate — and exactly how to apply each step→ Why attachment styles are just categories of coping mechanisms — and why labelling yourself keeps you stuck
You don't have a relationship problem. You have an identity wound that's playing out in your relationships. Once you see it — really see it — you can heal it. And when you heal it, everything changes. The patterns stop. The triggers lose their grip. You stop attracting the same pain with a different face. This is the work. And you're ready for it.
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