The Inspired Life Podcast

work with me, free 7 days: https://www.skool.com/inspired-life-method-9441/ When you (or your partner) get triggered, your relationship doesn’t need another fight — it needs a reset.Here’s what to do during the trigger and after the trigger so you stop repeating the same arguments.What you’ll learn (fast + scannable)The 3 scenarios: you triggered / them triggered / both triggeredHow to regulate first (so you don’t say things you regret)How to co-regulate your partner when you’re calmHow to find the real trigger underneath the conflictA simple agreement to stop “the same trigger” looping foreverThe exact script to say when the moment hitsThe core idea (simple + practical)Most couples don’t fail because triggers happen — they fail because they don’t have a plan for what happens next. If you try to “fix it” while you’re activated, you’ll default to blame, defensiveness, shutdown, or attack. So the order matters: Regulate → Reflect → Integrate.What to do DURING the trigger (regulation)If your partner is triggered and you’re not:“You’re safe. I’m here. I’m not going anywhere.”Slow your breathing, soften your tone, reduce intensityAsk what they need: space, touch, reassurance, or silenceIf BOTH of you are triggered:Minimize damage (pause, separate, breathe)Agree to revisit when you’re both calmWhat to do AFTER the trigger (reflection + integration)Name the trigger: “What was it really?” (control, abandonment, disrespect, etc.)Track repetition: if it’s the 3rd time, schedule a healing/integration sessionDo the work with a professional you trust (coach/therapist/healer) so the trigger stops running your relationshipThe Script (say this instead of escalating)“Hey love — I can feel I’m getting triggered. I don’t want to fight.Can we pause for 20 minutes, regulate, and then come back and talk about what this is really about?”(And if your partner is triggered:)“I’m here. You’re safe. I love you. Take your time — we can talk when your body settles.”

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People pleasing isn’t a personality trait — it’s a protection strategy.
In this episode, I’ll show you the hidden fear driving it and how to stop repeating the pattern.
What you’ll learn (quick + scannable)
Why people pleasing is often fear of abandonment / rejection in disguise

The difference between triggers vs boundaries (and why it matters)

A simple shadow-work style exercise to find the root wound

The 3-step process to heal the fear and build real boundaries

A word-for-word boundary script you can use immediately

If you’ve been trying to stop people pleasing but keep slipping back into over-explaining, saying yes when you mean no, or abandoning your needs — this will help. We’ll unpack the root cause (past hurt → future fear), how that creates the people-pleasing/fawn pattern, and how to set healthy boundaries without the guilt spiral. This is for you if you resonate with fear of abandonment, fear of judgment, or feeling unseen/unheard — and you want a clean, repeatable way to respond instead of react.

Most people say life sucks… then stay stuck.
In this episode, Jacqueline Hurst breaks down the mindset shift that puts you back in control.
In this conversation, you’ll learn:
The hidden reason people don’t change (and how to break the cycle)
Why “I have anxiety” can keep you powerless — and what to say insteadA simple thought → feeling → action → result process to change your state fast
How to stop people-pleasing and set boundaries without guilt
The truth about comparison culture + why “no one’s judging you” is real
Daily habits for calm: nature, movement, simple mind-training, and selective mediaIf you’ve been stuck in a victim mentality, overwhelmed by anxious thoughts, or trapped in the same patterns in relationships, this episode is a reset.
You’ll hear practical tools to challenge your inner dialogue, shift how you interpret situations, and create calmer emotions by changing the thoughts that fuel them.
Listen for this key line: “Think about what you’re thinking about.”
Connect with Jacqueline:
Website + coaching: www.Jacquelinehurst.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jacqueline_hurst_
If this helped, please subscribe + leave a comment: What thought pattern are you retiring starting today?

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Feeling anxious right now? Here’s how to calm your nervous system first—then find what’s actually triggering the anxiety cycle.
In this solo episode, I’ll walk you through a practical 3-step system you can repeat anytime anxiety shows up—at work, in relationships, or when you’re alone with your thoughts.
What you’ll learn (and do with me):
What anxiety actually is (fight/flight/freeze) and why it feels so intense

The 3-layer root: conditioning → patterns → triggers (so you can stop guessing)

A simple breath tool to switch out of “stress mode” and back into calm

How to identify the real trigger beneath the anxiety (beliefs + perceptions)

How to move from regulation → integration so you’re not stuck managing symptoms forever

Anxiety relief isn’t just “think positive.” If you only calm down in the moment, the same trigger tends to come back. That’s why this video is structured as: (1) Awareness → (2) Regulation → (3) Integration—so you can calm anxiety fast and also work on what’s driving it.
If this helps: like, subscribe, and share it with someone who’s been stuck in the anxious loop.

Work with me for free for 7 days: https://www.skool.com/inspired-life-method-9441/ I break down how to change your attachment style in 3 clear steps — and how to move from anxious, avoidant, or fearful attachment to secure attachment.You’ll learn:What attachment styles actually are (coping mechanisms, not identities)The real cause of triggers in relationshipsHow conditioning, patterns, and triggers work togetherThe 3-step roadmap to become securely attachedHow to stop repeating sabotaging relationship patternsThis approach goes deeper than labels and focuses on awareness, root cause, and integration — so real change can happen.