Tom Bilyeu's Mindset Playbook

Nick Santonastasso was born with no legs and one arm. And he absolutely refuses to make excuses. He became a varsity wrestler, a social media sensation, and wrote the book that perfectly describes his mindset, “Victim to Victor.” On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Nick Santonastasso describes how his mindset is his superpower, how he deals with failure, and how he balances ego and confidence.

SHOW NOTES:

Nick talks about how his parents raised him [2:52]
Nick describes his process for figuring out his body and fitness [4:22]
Nick talks about being in full victim-mode in middle and high school [7:24]
Nick explains how his mindset became his superpower [14:20]
Nick explains how failure and getting beat up helped him out [15:30]
Nick talks about how the lessons he learned in wrestling applied to life [20:27]
Nick describes why the biggest disability is a bad mindset [24:22]
Nick describes how his value system has changed [26:46]
Nick explains how he balances ego and confidence [29:37]
What is the path to confidence? [32:05]
Nick describes what he does when he doesn’t follow through on his commitments [35:24]
Nick shares his experience with prosthetics [36:38]
Nick shares the impact he wants to have on the world [41:00]

QUOTES:

“As long as I try my best, as long as I attempt it, that’s not really failing.” [14:55]
“If I was gonna lose, I was gonna lose like a champion.” [16:29]
“People can see me on the street and be like, ‘Wow, look how disabled that guy is.’ And I’m like, pfft. Have you seen your mindset? Have you seen the way you operate? Have you seen the way you react to situations, that you’re pissed off in traffic? You think the world happens TO you. I’m not disabled. You’re handicapped.” [26:03]
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How does someone rebuild from the depths of failure, self-inflicted harm, and feelings of worthlessness? Doug Bopst knows all about hitting rock bottom. But sitting in jail, a miserable addict, overweight and locked in a victim mindset, he found a mentor in a cellmate who got him into fitness. On this week’s episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, watch as elite fitness coach Doug Bopst shares his story of resurrection and redemption.

SHOW NOTES:

Doug talks about rebuilding from a sense of total worthlessness [2:57]
Doug explains how important it is that someone believes in you [5:56]
Doug describes the process by which he learned to take responsibility [8:45]
Doug explains how seeing progress changes your outlook [11:31]
Doug describes how important faith is [12:29]
Doug talks about how, at first, channeling anger was effective in fitness [16:16]
Doug illustrates his continuing need for mentorship [19:24]
Doug describes his spiritual journey and why he went on it in the first place [21:58]
Doug advocates focusing on your process instead of immediate results [25:15]
Doug explains why he is hard on his clients [27:07]
Doug describes self-compassion, gratitude and affirmation [28:56]
Doug advocates focusing on what you can control day-to-day [30:53]
Doug describes his daily routine and time management [33:08]
Doug explains how to change the behaviors that you attach to emotions [34:15]
Doug talks about how to deal with bullying [37:43]
Doug shares what he would tell his younger self if he could [38:55]
Doug shares the impact he wants to have on the world [41:03]

QUOTES:

“You can either be a man or you can be a bitch.” [10:41]
“I literally feel like I died in jail and was reborn.” [15:37]
“You have to fail to grow stronger. You have to fail to run faster.” [19:12]

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How does a regular person with fears and doubts go from abject failure to breaking world records? Colin O’Brady suffered a critical injury so bad that a doctor told him he would probably never walk properly again. So, he climbed Mount Everest. And he became the first person to do what was thought impossible--cross Antarctica alone and unaided.

On this week’s episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, watch as Colin O’Brady explains how he deals with fears, doubts, and competitiveness, and how he uses objectivity about it all to his advantage.

SHOW NOTES:

Colin explains what inspires him to take extreme risks [2:42]
Colin describes the connection between being an artist and an athlete [4:30]
Colin talks about how his self-narrative kept him going [7:51]
Colin describes his relationship to fear [13:32]
Colin defines the most important skill he needed to cross Antarctica alone [18:30]
Colin describes the real experience of meditation [20:33]
Colin explains why he doesn’t have a negative interpretation of his experiences [27:00]
Colin illustrates his own competitive drive and how he cultivates it [35:00]
Colin describes his conception of death [42:00]
Colin shares the impact he wants to have on the world [49:00]

QUOTES:

“We are the story we tell ourselves.” [8:16]
“My biggest fear is bottoming out at that plateau of comfortable complacency.” [46:30]
“The fear is not death specifically. The curiosity is how can I live my life so that I’m...not hedging so much against death that I don’t fully live.” [47:26]
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Before you conclude that circumstances prevent you from success, you might want to listen to what Everette Taylor has to say. Here is a man who was homeless, who first learned business from drug dealers, and who then started multiple multi-million dollar companies. He is now one of the most successful and recognized entrepreneurs under 30. How did he get there? On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Everette Taylor shows how you can learn anything you want to learn if you are willing to truly listen to people and then put in the work.

SHOW NOTES:

Relentless is Everette’s favorite word [3:05]
Everette tells the story of being homeless and losing everything [4:39]
Embracing reality means actually finding a solution [6:51]
Everette and Tom discuss learning entrepreneurship from hustlers and drug dealers [8:04]
Tom asks Everette why the same poverty that breaks other people propelled him [14:11]
Everette explains why he needed to see entrepreneurs who looked like him [17:11]
Everette talks about the importance of emotional intelligence [19:00]
Everette advocates that you can learn anything you want to learn [20:59]
Everette says helping people is his deepest motivation [22:30]
Everette and Tom discuss what to say to someone who hasn’t found their passion [25:08]
Everette advocates really understanding your target audience [26:53]
Everette and Tom discuss the love of learning [30:00]
Everette describes one change people could make that would have the most impact [35:30]

QUOTES:

“It’s one thing being homeless. It’s another thing having everything taken away from you.” [5:10]
“My supplier, that was the first COO that I ever met. Being a drug dealer is like being a Chief Operating Officer.” [11:45]
“There’s a lot of drug dealers. There’s not a lot of drug dealers who are making real money. It takes a certain je ne sais quoi to get to a point where you’re the boss.” [13:47]
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Former NFL wide receiver and current champion influencer Trent Shelton spends his life helping people become the best possible version of themselves. In this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Trent shares deeply personal stories from his own life, his own fears and his own failures. But he doesn’t stop there. He explains how you can use your fears, your failures and your life experiences to live (not find) your true purpose.

SHOW NOTES:

Trent describes being an introvert who becomes a renowned public speaker [2:32]
Trent talks about being scared to speak in front of 5,000 people [4:00]
Trent and Tom discuss using manipulative techniques on themselves [6:25]
Why it’s important to move towards things that scare you [8:20]
Trent explains the championship mindset and why you have to want it for yourself [9:09]
Trent wanted to be a professional football player at six years old [12:07]
Should you help people build their desire? [13:08]
What really matters? [15:47]
Trent explains how he helps people face reality [17:39]
Trent discusses vulnerability and authenticity [19:07]
Trent explains exactly what he thinks fear is [21:07]
How do people identify their purpose? [24:19]
Trent illuminates the difference between what you want and where you thrive [26:17]
Suppression leads to depression [28:10]
Trent shares how he deals with his mother’s cancer [29:40]
Trent talks about gratitude [32:20]
Trent discusses self-care [34:02]
Trent shares the impact that he wants to have on the world [38:00]

QUOTES:

“If you’re nervous, if you’re scared, you’re too into yourself.” [7:47]
“The foundation of all strength is pain.” [9:05]
“I used to have a fear of not succeeding. My fear now is succeeding at the wrong things.” [16:52]
“Sometimes “I need help” is the most powerful thing that you can say.” [18:22]
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