You Make Sense

In this episode, Sarah unpacks the formula for growth and why tolerating discomfort is a key component of stepping into your purpose. You’ll get a somatic roadmap for how to work with your nervous system, tend to your younger parts, and unpack jealousy for deeper clarity on your desires. One gentle step at a time, it’s possible to expand into the bigger life meant for you.

 

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction

[01:34] Resistance as an indicator you’re on the right path

[04:02] Why our greatest desires require our greatest healing

[09:26] Building your capacity to tolerate discomfort

[12:48] Why feelings aren’t always your adult self’s truth

[21:29] The formula for stepping toward the life you want

[22:21] Connecting to the thing you deeply desire

[25:00] Asking what healing requires of you

[29:26] Reparenting the vulnerable part that was wounded

[33:43] Getting to know your protective parts

[35:38] Showing your parts the life you’re heading towards

[46:58] Question 1 – How can I make regulation more tolerable for me and my parts?

[52:55] Question 2 – Will taking medication affect the process of reparenting my parts?

[58:20] Question 3 – What is the trauma vortex and how does it work?

 

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Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand-new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will equip you with science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease in your daily life.

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Quotes:

“The things that we want the most in our lives will require our greatest healing, and that means that they’re going to require us to experience and to tolerate discomfort along the way.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:18]

“The feelings you might be having at any given moment are a truth to a part of you, they just may not be the truth to your adult self.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:33]

“A competent protector or adult self needs to have two qualities: you are soft and attuned, and you are ferociously protective. When you are both of those things, you are in the trust of the protector, and they are able to rest.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:09]

“Just because stepping into your purpose is a lot of work [doesn’t mean it’s] wrong. It’s the healing of the past that is taking all that energy, and it’s supposed to. And the more you do it, the easier it becomes.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:43:41]

 

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In this episode, Sarah breaks down the origins of idealization and infatuation, showing how these patterns are rooted in unresolved experiences and protective strategies. She explains why infatuation is not love, but a survival response that pulls you out of your adult self and into fantasy. Sarah shares what it takes to shift these dynamics through reparenting and parts work, so you can move from survival-based patterns into grounded, mutual connection.

 

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction

[00:42] Why you idealize partners and become infatuated

[04:28] How your threat detector drives attraction

[08:03] The internal dynamics of “pedestal” relationships

[11:03] Origins of idealization: fantasizing as a way to escape and self-protect

[14:11] What infatuation feels like (and why it’s not love)

[22:39] Reparenting, parts work, and accessing “adult you” in relationships

[25:51] What healthy love looks like

[29:35] Asking yourself what you’re actually looking for

[31:15] Other areas where we put people on a pedestal (and learning to love yourself)

[34:06] Question 1 - What is limerence in relationships, and why does it happen?

[38:03] Question 2 - How do I stay authentic around people I admire without belittling myself?

[43:16] Question 3 - What's the difference between narcissism and an avoidant attachment?

 

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Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!

Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:

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Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:

Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.

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Quotes:

“Our system is essentially saying: If I can be chosen by the best person, or the most perfect person, or the shiniest penny, then maybe that means I’m lovable.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:38]

“[Idealization and infatuation] occurs when we've had a younger part of us who wasn't chosen, who was abandoned, or who experienced love from a conditional place.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:54]

“Someone who has done their work and is healthy in a relationship—they don't want to be put on a pedestal. Because when you're put on a pedestal, you are not actually seen and known.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:39]

“Adult love is not infatuation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:46]

“When you actually love from Adult you, you are deeply able to take in the wholeness of that person.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:27:27]

Perceiving danger when we’re actually safe is one of the most prominent drivers of human suffering and the reason many of us are chronically dysregulated. Sarah will walk you through how to create internal safety by harnessing the power of your nervous system and discharging stored trauma, so the past can finally be resolved. Listen in to discover how to work with your nervous system to begin building the life you want.

 

Episode Highlights: keep them short and to the point

[00:00] Introduction

[02:04] Experiencing regulation through safety

[05:06] How unresolved trauma creates a lack of safety

[12:53] Examples of over-coupling and what it means

[17:24] Showing your nervous system that it’s safe

[21:06] How childhood experiences affect romantic partnerships

[26:38] A spiritual view of the freedom regulation brings

[32:39] The antidote to lacking internal safety

[37:13] Question 1 – When do I know if I should leave an overwhelming work situation?

[47:54] Questions 2 – How can I make my home feel safe after a traumatic experience?

[59:08] Questions 3 – Is it possible to feel safe during big life upheavals like divorce or betrayal?

 

NOW ENROLLING — Join Sarah’s 10-Week Program:

Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!

Click below to join before the doors close on April 14th.
https://bit.ly/sp-yms

 

Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:

Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.

Click below to get started:

https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz

 

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

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Quotes:

“The experience of time becomes stunted when we experience those traumatic things, and it’s almost as if that experience is lodged in that moment in time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:46]

“Trauma is not a thing of the past, everyone. And overwhelming things aren’t a thing of the past either. They’re a thing of the perpetual present until they are resolved.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:40]

“The language of the nervous system is show, not tell.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:47]

“Anything that is not resolved from your earliest childhood experiences will be projected onto your adult romantic relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:48]

Sarah walks through the foundations of somatic parts work, including the importance of nervous system regulation, differentiating from our parts, and anchoring into adult self. When we’re able to meet these young parts with empathy, safety, and genuine love, the protective roles you’ve likely carried for years can finally begin to soften. Listen in to discover why falling in love with your parts is a powerful path toward lasting healing.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction

[01:03] Focusing on the root issue, not symptoms

[05:35] Tending to your parts without an agenda

[12:53] An overview of parts work

[16:17] How to differentiate from your parts

[18:01] Getting to know your parts and falling in love with them

[20:16] Unburdening protective parts from their role 

[24:30] Self-like parts and why they sound like adult you

[29:27] Question 1 - What if I’m too anxious to have children?

[34:55] Question 2 - Can I heal my nervous system while playing a new sport?

[39:12] Question 3 - Why do physical symptoms return during trauma healing?

[44:17] Question 4 - Why can I orgasm alone but not with a partner?

RSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training:

Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a FREE, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience.

Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time):

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Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:

Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.

Click the link below to download:

https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook

 

Connect with Sarah on:

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Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com

 

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Quotes:

“If you try to continually treat symptoms without getting to what's underneath it, the symptom will just continue to arise.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:30]

“The issue here is not that symptom, it's the protective part of you or the vulnerable part of you, [who] is suffering and struggling and doesn't feel that they are safe.” Sarah Baldwin [0:03:10]

“In order to effectively do parts work, you have to be in the driver's seat of your nervous system. Not all the time, but you have to be able to access adult you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:42]

“By differentiating from our parts, we can fall in love with them. And that is the foundation of parts work. It doesn't work if you don't fall in love with these versions of you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:17]

“Love is the most powerful tool. It's the most powerful weapon that there is, and it is stronger than anything else.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:19]

“My deepest wish for you isn't that those symptoms go away. My deepest wish for you is that you fall so deeply in love with these parts, that you set them free and that you see who you are as the parent to them, which is a miraculous, amazing being.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:21]

 

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In this episode, Sarah explains why we choose partners who poke at what still needs to be resolved. She breaks down how we unknowingly hold each other accountable for pain from the past, why conflict intensifies as love grows, and how to shift from opposing sides to the same team. When you understand what is actually happening in your nervous system, relationship struggles become an invitation to deeper repair and lasting connection.

 

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction

[00:40] What it really means to become a team with our partner

[01:53] Why early-stage relationships often feel easier

[04:51] How the nervous system begins linking your partner to family

[05:49] Ways we hold partners accountable for pain they did not cause

[07:11] Relationship conflict is not always a sign that something is wrong

[07:57] Why safe, loving relationships can feel threatening

[12:55] How we end up on different teams

[14:22] Healing the last 20% of unresolved wounds inside partnership

[19:24] Why you marry your unfinished business

[22:26] From swords of protection to swords of love

[28:42] Pausing when triggered and turning toward younger parts

[30:59] Advocating for younger parts and inviting your partner into repair

[33:45] Question 1 - Is feeling guilt about sharing relationship struggles a trauma response?

[43:44] Question 2 - How do I process ending a relationship driven by my protective parts?

[54:45] Question 3 - How do I let go of fantasy and reconnect with my spouse?

 

RSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training:

Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a FREE, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience.

 

Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time):

https://bit.ly/sp-nssk

 

Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:

Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.

 

Click below to get started:

https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz

 

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching

Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com

 

Submit a Question:

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Quotes:

“Once we've done enough internal healing, we draw in a safe person, and you have to build your capacity for receiving the good.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:11:11]

“Neuroscience confirms it for us that we are traveling [in] time anytime we're triggered, and in healing, what we're doing is we're becoming the warrior for the parts of us that are waiting for that resolution.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:17:36]

“[Relationships are] supposed to be the fertile ground where together we can heal up the last 20% of both of our wounding. And that is a beautiful love story. That is what love is supposed to be.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:21:43]

“The work that we're doing is about looking within, not pointing the finger out. So when I was able to do that, look within, that clued me into all this is hurting part, and without him poking at it, I would never be able to address that part.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:30:10]

“What's not talked about enough is what actually happens in relationships. And because it's not talked about enough, we think that there's something very, very wrong; that we're struggling or having a problem in our relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:00:36]

“Every unresolved thing from your childhood attachment gets resolved in relationship. So the more that we can see we're not alone and normalize this, the more that we stop avoiding it in our relationships, and we can actually address it.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:00:49]

 

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