You Make Sense

Endings are inevitable, and during this conversation, Sarah talks about the extraordinary dimension of life we can unlock when we do the work of shifting our orientation towards change and finding the opportunity within every transition. We explore processing grief, building internal trust, and unpacking what it means to recognize new beginnings, stay connected, and embrace the changing nature of life.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction

[00:48] What happens when we resist change

[02:37] Reasons why so many of us resist change

[06:39] How our past experiences influence our orientation towards change

[11:09] Being fully present to what is ending in our lives

[21:21] Embracing new beginnings

[30:54] Connecting with your own form of spirituality

[33:51] Question 1 - How do I have faith in the face of loss and disappointment?

[45:48] Question 2 - How do I determine whether a romantic partner is safe to grow with?

[54:40] Question 3 - Is it possible to heal my relationship to sex after abuse?

Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:

Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.

Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:
https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist

Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:

Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system, specific to you.

Click below to get started:
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Quotes:

“The resisting of change only causes our suffering because you cannot make the change stop.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:13]

“In order for anything to thrive in our lives, it has to have room to breathe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:03:56]

“If you don’t have the capacity to let go of what is no longer here, you cannot welcome in the richness that is wanting to arrive at this new beginning.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:16]

“When it comes to endings, the only way that they’re navigable is when we feel safe inside.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:51]

“When we are able to anchor into that internal truth, and when we are able to take breath by breath, step by step, life becomes the most beautiful dance, the most beautiful unfolding, and that is what it’s supposed to be for you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:24:27]

“Only when you are anchored fully in internal safety, can you be okay with not knowing.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:57]

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Sarah breaks down how these fantasizing parts inform our actions and why life is not only meant to be easy and happy. You’ll hear all about how these protective parts can keep you from experiencing the good things in your life and why the world we live in fuels our obsession with fantasy. This episode is filled with tangible tools to help you process what was and anchor into the abundance already available to you in the present.

Episode Highlights: 

[00:00] Introduction

[01:34] Examples of living in fantasy

[03:18] Understanding your protective parts

[06:58] The two things fantasizing parts do and why

[15:34] How fantasizing parts show up in adult life

[25:10] Why we only grow through challenge

[27:16] How fantasizing parts keep us from good things

[35:41] The way our current world fuels fantasy

[38:59] Building your capacity to be with what is

[41:29] Question 1 – How do I make peace with aging?

[49:26] Question 2 – What should I focus on when struggling with chronic illness?

[58:45] Question 3 – How do I navigate not getting the thing I’ve always wanted?

Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:

Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.

Click the link below to download:
https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook

Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:

Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.

Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:
https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community -- bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching

Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com

Submit a Question:
sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Quotes:

“A fantasizing part is always trying to figure out a way to keep us from what presently is [happening].” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:15]

“The fantasizing part keeps us from the goodness right in front of us as a way to ensure that we are never harmed again.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:58]

“Life is not meant to be just goodness, everybody. That’s not what it’s about.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:25:10]

“My hope is that you can see here that you are a complex being.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:33:47]

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Sarah offers insight into both the short-term benefits and long-term consequences of fawning. You’ll learn how this behavior relates to the nervous system and the importance of anchoring into regulation and your adult self. She also discusses how social pressures can influence our tendency to fawn in romantic relationships, friendships, and beyond. Listen in for a compassionate guide for how to come back home to your most authentic self.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction

[01:08] Sarah’s personal experiences of fawning

[04:16] What fawning is and why it happens

[10:00] Why partners who don’t fawn might feel threatening

[12:16] Short-term benefits of fawning

[14:10] Long-term ramifications of fawning

[17:12] Tools to start allowing yourself to be seen and known

[20:20] The influence of social pressures on fawning

[26:15] What healing looks like in practice

[31:48] Question 1 – How do I know if I’m fawning or just being nice?

[37:15] Question 2 – How do I overcome fawning when I’ve made a mistake?

[41:11] Question 3 – How do I differentiate between adult me and a fawning part?

Get Started with Nervous System Regulation:

Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand-new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will equip you with science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease in your daily life.

Join the course for only $67:
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Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:

Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.

Click below to get started:
https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community -- bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching

Website — https://sarahbaldwincoaching.com

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Quotes:

“Fawning, essentially, is becoming whatever we need to be to be safe in the situation that we are in.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:07:20]

“If you find yourself fawning in any area of life, please know there’s a reason for it. It’s not happening because you’re inauthentic.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:29]

“Fawning serves an important purpose, and for many of us, if you’re like me, it’s saved your life.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:15]

“The people in your life are not supposed to be your therapist!” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:26]

Sarah highlights how our relationship to money is shaped by past experiences that have linked wealth with danger, shame, or pressure. These patterns can quietly limit our ability to receive and sustain financial well-being, which is why it’s essential to build our capacity to receive pleasure. Through tangible practices like reparenting and nervous system regulation, Sarah offers a compassionate path toward decoupling wealth from past experiences, allowing for a more fully expressed and abundant life.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction

[00:50] Why nothing in nature is meek

[03:00] Nature’s innate ability to receive abundantly

[03:50] Your nervous system as the ruler of your lived experience

[06:50] The meaning we create around money

[09:55] Building our nervous system’s capacity to hold wealth

[12:10] Receiving goodness simply because you exist

[14:14] Reparenting your younger parts

[17:55] Stepping into the callings of your life

[18:30] Getting beyond survivor’s guilt

[22:30] Where wealth comes from

[24:22] Question 1 - What are effective ways to overcome compulsive spending habits?

[29:51] Question 2 - How do I overcome perfectionism that is hindering my career growth?

[39:45] Question 3 - What are tangible ways to step toward stillness and restorative rest?

Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook: 

Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.

Click the link below to download:
https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook

Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System: 

Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.

Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:
 https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community -- bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching

Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com

Submit a Question:
sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Quotes:

“The ruler of your ability to experience financial abundance, or not, is your nervous system.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:03:57]

“What's really important to understand is that in order to build our ability to have wealth, we have to build our capacity to hold it in our nervous system.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:57]

“Until we reorient our nervous system in our parts to money being different than it was, we are going to continually be in the cycles that we once knew or that we once experienced.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:12]

Sarah breaks down what happens when the nervous system mistakes present-day conflict for past pain, and why we may protect ourselves by shutting down or getting defensive. She also shares how curiosity can help us pause, look inward, and understand why we’re getting triggered. Instead of seeing conflict as a sign that something is wrong, Sarah shows how it can become a place for healing, honesty, and deeper connection. Tune in to learn how to return to your adult self, ask for what you need, and navigate conflict with greater safety, care, and trust.

 

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction

[01:48] How the nervous system connects the present to past relational pain

[06:04] Why conflict is often misunderstood as intentional harm

[08:14] How unresolved wounds get activated in close relationships

[11:53] Relationships are not meant to be easy

[15:58] Examples of how conflict can help you heal

[22:25] Tools to navigate conflict and step toward repair

[27:28] Question 1 - Why does my parent struggle with repairing after conflict?

[35:24] Question 2 - Is healing possible in a struggling long-term relationship?

[49:11] Question 3 - How do you navigate conflict effectively with a business partner?

 

Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:

Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.

Click the link below to download:

 https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook

Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:

Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system, specific to you.

Click below to get started:

 https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz

 

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community --  bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching

Website — https://sarahbaldwincoaching.com

 

Submit a Question:

sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

 

Quotes:

“Relationships are not supposed to be just easy.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:08]

“We draw in people who poke at the last bit of our wounding, and that is a beautiful invitation into the final bits of our healing.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:46]

“When there is conflict, we have to begin getting curious internally first. Curiosity is the key around conflict.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:25]

“Love is when someone stretches towards their scary stuff.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:37:25]

“Trauma healing is something called state-dependent. That means we need to go into the state or the experience that we were in the moment we were traumatized, and make it different.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:38:26]

 

Links Mentioned:

YMS Waitlist

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