Childless not by Choice

• Episode 174--Mother's Day and Shame

  Hello, and welcome to episode 174 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.   Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!     What is today’s show about? Mother’s Day   Thank you, Patreon contributors: I want to thank my Patreon contributors, who contribute monthly to the platform.    Your contributions help pay the salaries of my podcast producer and host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests and other expenses. Thank you very much!        If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!   If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at [email protected].  Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!   https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice   Questions or comments? Contact me at:   Email: [email protected]                                                  Or   Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail. Thank you to the Paypal contributor from the UK. Um, from a month ago. Sorry it took so long to give a shout out.  Your contribution means a lot!   Body of episode: Isaiah 54:1 1“Sing, barren woman, you who never bore a child; burst into song, shout for joy, you who were never in labor; because more are the children of the desolate woman than of her who has a husband,” says the Lord. I am well aware that this scripture is an analogy and not literal. I know the literal meaning, which you can search via Google or a Bible commentary if you want to know.    I use the Matthew Henry Commentary for my research. I don’t want to get into the weeds here, so I am giving you homework. I love this verse because it brings joy and hope to those of us who never had children, and not shame and derision.  Although we did not have children, we can still contribute to society by the decisions we make to be a part of society; as teachers, as aunts, as mentors; in whatever roles we choose to be a part of a child’s life. To be a part of society. Importantly: in addition to whatever you choose to do with your life. You can be an astronaut and mentor. You can be a CEO and be a wonderful aunt.  Choose, decide, not to go inward and separate yourself from society because of the grief of childlessness. How we live our lives is always a choice. A decision.  I know we are all in different places on our childless not by choice journey, but I am confident that as we continue on our journey, we will get to the point where we can embrace our whole selves. You are the only you. I am the only me. You will get to the point where you can embrace the missing part in your heart and yet enjoy every aspect of your life. If it could happen for me, trust me, it can happen for you.  I’ve said in previous episodes that no one could have told me I would never have children. It was just out of the question! But we never know what life has in store for us. How we deal with it is what is important. Very important.  I also want to say that Mother’s Day is a day created by someone to recognize mothers. Mother’s are doing the hard work to raise children to be positive contributors to a civil society. We need that now more than ever. So I am grateful to all the great mothers out there doing the hard work!  We all know that what we don’t learn at home, the world will teach us. And the world is a harsh teacher. We all know that!  I am grateful to my mom, may she continue to rest in peace. She left this world the week before Mother’s Day, no less.  I miss her every day because I know she had my best interests at heart. Even as an adult, she would ask me questions that made me think.  I remember once she asked me about a certain friendship where I always seemed to be giving, but not getting anything back. It was not a deep friendship, but it was enough of a friendship where there could have been some reciprocation.  That question made me step back and take a look at my friendships. It reminded me to value myself even as I valued others.  That one question really helped me in the years to come, to make sure I was valued in my friendships and relationships. One little question. So, be sure to value yourself. Value your life.  Value what you do for a living. Value your place in this world. Value that little place in your heart that may feel an emptiness.  And for those of you who teach or mentor, who have mothered whole communities, whole families…you are helping to make a positive contribution to the world by helping children become a positive contribution to society, showing them how to manage their lives, biases, selfishness, love, life, their hearts, their laundry.  Dear childless not by choice woman, you are seen, you are remembered, you are loved, you are valued.               Research links: Isaiah 54:1 My contact information: Website: www.childlessnotbychoice.net and www.civillamorgan.com Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan Instagram: @joyandrelevance Pinterest: Civilla M. Morgan, MSM LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM

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• Episode 173--My Conversation with Mind Body Revival Coach Aisha Balesaria

    Hello, and welcome to episode 173 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice lives.   Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!     What is today’s show about? My conversation with Mind Body Revival Coach Aisha Balesaria   Thank you, Patreon contributors: I want to thank my Patreon contributors, who contribute monthly to the platform.  Your contributions help pay the salaries of my podcast producer and host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, and other expenses. Thank you very much!       If you are not a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!   If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at [email protected].  Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!   https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice   Questions or comments? Contact me at:   Email: [email protected]                                                  Or   Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail. Intro (for guest episodes): I started coaching because I wanted to support others to achieve what they really want, but they weren’t sure how to do it! Around 6 years ago a coach at work really helped me gain clarity about my future when I was uncertain about how it would look. The uncertainty occurred when I was unexpectedly diagnosed with stage four endometriosis, it was a huge shock that affected my career and personal life.  So, why mindbodyrevival_coach, I’m often asked? I integrate the mind-body connection in my work. The way the body responds to how we think, feel, and act can impact our entire well-being.  During my practice, I can also use journaling and breath work to support my clients move through their thoughts when they’re feeling stuck. I work from an intersectional perspective because, like my own situation, I understand the nuances of each individual’s circumstances. Body of episode:   Tell us about your passion for Coaching and what Revival means to you.   So, in the world of childless not by choice, those of us who wanted but could not have children are on a similar journey caused typically by different illnesses. For me it was fibroids and time. On your website you say for you it was Endometriosis and Adenomyosis?           Can you tell us your story, as much as you would like to share?   You are transitioning or should I say evolving from CNBC to life after infertility…tell us more.    I love the cheat sheet questions to ask your doctor at doctor visits. I always say we should have a list of questions and never fear getting a second opinion.   In our pre-chat you explained a little about Eid. I suppose Eid al Fitr. I also see there is an Eid al-Adha, commemorating the willingness of the Prophet Ibrahim to sacrifice his son. That story I know, but tell us more about Eid al Fitr.   You mentioned that you grew up in a multicultural home. Tell us how that may speak to your intersectional perspective. If it does.    Talk to us about your book, the 1 in 8. And tell us about any upcoming projects you may have coming up.   As we close, is there anything that you would like to make sure we cover?   Research links: https://www.islamic-relief.org.uk/giving/islamic-giving/ramadan/eid-al-fitr/     Aisha’s Contact Information: https://mindbodyrevivalcoach.com/ Instagram:  @mindbodyrevival_coach     Special thank you to: Aisha Balesaria My contact information: Website: www.childlessnotbychoice.net and www.civillamorgan.com Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan Instagram: @joyandrelevance Pinterest: Civilla M. Morgan, MSM LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM https://www.teepublic.com/stores/childless-not-by-choice

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• Episode 172--WOMEN’S HISTORY MONTH CELEBRATED AND I WAS INTERVIEWED!

  Hello, and welcome to episode 172 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice lives.   Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!     What is today’s show about? I was interviewed! AND, this is Women’s History Month! Let’s talk about both.   Thank you Patreon contributors: I want to thank my Patreon contributors, who contribute monthly to the platform.    Your contributions help pay the salaries of my podcast producer and host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests and other expenses. Thank you very much!        If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!   If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at [email protected].  Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!   https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice   Questions or comments? Contact me at:   Email: [email protected]                                                  Or   Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail. Body of episode: I was interviewed for the second time on Engel Jones' podcast 12 12-Minute Convos. I love what Engel is doing in the podcast space, conversing with all types of people, speaking on all subjects!   Take a listen by clicking the link below!  https://twelveminuteconvos.com/civilla-morgan-a-decade-of-stories-a-conversation-on-podcast-evolution-grief-and-finding-new-purpose-ep-3242/   Also, March is Women’s History Month. I have placed several links to previous episodes of the wonderful women I have had the opportunity to interview. Feel free to listen or re-listen!  Do you know a woman or women who have made life better for you or their community? Be sure to show your appreciation. Buy them flowers, lunch, dinner, or their favorite snack. People love to be recognized.     Special thank you to: Engel Jones of the 12-Minute Convos Podcast   Articles/Links of Interest: https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-155-my-conversation-with-stephanie-joy-phillips-founder-of-world-childless-week/   https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-134-the-dame-who-made-a-difference/   https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-147-race-gender-in-equality-and-childlessness-my-conversation-with-yvonne-john/   https://childlessnotbychoice.net/my-conversation-with-mrs-pennsylvania/   https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-126-she-i-dare-not-name-a-spinsters-meditation-on-life-my-conversation-with-author-donna-ward/ My contact information: Website: www.childlessnotbychoice.net and www.civillamorgan.com Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan Instagram: @joyandrelevance Pinterest: Civilla M. Morgan, MSM LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM https://www.teepublic.com/stores/childless-not-by-choice If you want to become a one-time or ongoing sponsor, or if you want to advertise your business or an upcoming event, contact me at [email protected] for details.   

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• Episode 171--Love or Indifference

    Hello, and welcome to episode 171 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.   Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!     What is today’s show about? Love   Thank you Patreon contributors: I want to thank my Patreon contributors, the people who contribute monthly to the platform.    Your contributions help pay the salaries of my podcast producer and host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, and other expenses. Thank you very much!        If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!   If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at [email protected].  Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!   https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice   Questions or comments? Contact me at:   Email: [email protected]                                                  Or   Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen, and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail. Body of episode: When I was thinking about the content for this episode, I considered discussing the different types of love. Love of parents. Love of a child. Falling in love. You know, love. But then I wondered, what is the opposite of love? My immediate response would be hate. You would think so. But I like writer Elie Weisel’s opinion on the opposite of love: indifference.  He also said "The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference" and "The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference". Indifference. What do you think about when you hear the word indifference? I believe indifference is the easy way out. Indifference takes less brain power, less critical thinking, less effort. And I believe indifference can be dangerous.  We are living in a world where indifference seems to reign. And I believe it is reigning due to fear. Many people are afraid of the way our world is going. There is a lot of hate and division taking place globally. Most people opt to lay low, get to work, run errands, and then run back home. And I get it. There are a lot of stressed-out people out in those streets. And most people do not handle stress well. They become angry, blame, and take out their frustrations on the nearest object, and dare I say, person?    Life has not been easy since the dawn of time. We were promised that with more technology we would have more time to relax. But even though we have washing machines and microwaves, we are still so busy we barely have time to sleep. Stress, anger, lack of sleep, and the list goes on. They all add up to a scary situation. A scary society.    Regardless, despite, what is going on in the world, I want to remind you that you matter. Your feelings matter. Your life matters. Your livelihood matters. Your existence matters. No matter where in the world you are listening to me from, you matter. I know I say this all the time, but every human on this planet was made in the image of God.    I get that this podcast is heard globally, by people of different faiths, or not. And different belief systems. But if you have been listening to me for any length of time, you know I am a Believer. And that means I believe in God. I believe Jesus was not just a prophet, a nice guy. I believe in The Holy Trinity. And with that belief system, I believe what the Bible says. And I try every day, to live by what it says. I don’t wear a cross around my neck because it’s fashionable. I believe what it stands for. And I try to live my life by what it stands for. I am not perfect, but the Bible calls us to perfection, it never says we will be perfect. We just need to spend out lives working toward it. Toward being better humans to each other. Better neighbors.  I know some of my listeners are Hindu, Moslem, Jewish, agnostic, Christian, Catholic, atheist. And that’s what I want. I want all of you to listen and hear healing words for your broken heart. Hearts broken like mine, because we did not get to have the children we wanted. From day one, 10 years ago, I said I wanted everyone to listen, and get help from this podcast, no matter your personal beliefs or where in the world you live. And it happened!   Thank you for tuning in month after month. Thank you for feedback. Thank you for ratings and reviews over on Apple. Thank you for all of it! It has not always been an easy ride, but it was what I set out to do. I did not realize how hard it would be sometimes. I remember when I lost my first podcast producer. He taught me just about everything I know about the art of podcasting. But it was time for him to move on. That was a tough time for me. I have recorded episodes with guests that sounded so bad I cried. I wanted to give up on podcasting many times. There were guest requests I had to turn down because I was going with my gut, not necessarily because there was anything wrong with the guest.   There have been difficult decisions that had to be made, that literally left me crying for days. You may ask why put yourself through that?  It’s not even like I am getting millions of downloads per month. In the scheme of things I am smack dab in the middle of average when it comes to downloads.   Caring for my parents while working and creating content, that was really hard. As a caregiver the work world doesn’t really care that you are balancing sick parents, doctors appointments, a walker and a wheelchair, with trying to hang on to income. I hope one day caregivers will be recognized for all the work we do which actually saves money for our governments.  Living life, grieving, working, creating. It was all happening in real-time for me.      And now here I am. Here we are. Life continues. It moves on, with or without us. Life is like a train that has to keep a schedule. You may be running late. You may not have the fare. Life may be interrupting, but she’s leaving the station on time.  You know, I always say, life is short. It will pass us by whether we live it to our fullest or not. It will pass us by whether we live someone else’s life or we live our own lives. The lives we were given. Live your life. Lovc your life. Love your family and friends, but be sure to love your life.    Articles/links of interest: https://www.brusselstimes.com/1420823/up-to-40-of-women-without-children-by-age-of-30-never-have-them-at-all   https://www.sportschosun.com/k-drama/2025/02/crayon-pop-cho-ah-who-has-been-childless-for-46747 Special thank you to: Love   My contact information: Website: www.childlessnotbychoice.net and www.civillamorgan.com Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan Instagram: @joyandrelevance Pinterest: Civilla M. Morgan, MSM LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM https://www.teepublic.com/stores/childless-not-by-choice

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• Episode 170--Meditation by Bindi Shah

  Intro: Hello, and welcome to episode 170 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men worldwide, reminding us that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.   Whether you have children or not, thank you for tuning in!     What is today’s show about? Meditiation by Bindi Shah Body of episode:   Bindi’s Meditation Recording   This Meditation was created by Bindi to help us get the year off to a great start! NOTE TO LISTENER: Please listen when you can relax and really take in the information—not while driving. Bindi’s Contact Information: bindishah.com Articles/links of interest: https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-169-my-conversation-with-bindi-shah/ Special thank you to: Bindi Shah My contact information: Website: www.childlessnotbychoice.net and www.civillamorgan.com Facebook: booksbycivillamorgan Twitter: @civilla1 Instagram: @joyandrelevance Pinterest: Civilla M. Morgan, MSM LinkedIn: Civilla Morgan, MSM https://www.teepublic.com/stores/childless-not-by-choice Thank you Patreon contributors: I want to thank my Patreon contributors, the people who make a monthly financial contribution to the platform.    Your contributions help pay my podcast producer, host, Zoom, where I interview most of my guests, and other expenses. Thank you very much!        If you are not yet a Patron, visit patreon.com/childlessnotbychoice to set up your monthly contribution. No matter your giving level, I have a gift for you!   If you prefer to give via PayPal, you can find me there at [email protected].  Your contributions to the platform are greatly appreciated! Thank you!   https://www.patreon.com/Childlessnotbychoice   Questions or comments? Contact me at:   Email: [email protected]                                                  Or   Visit the website at www.childlessnotbychoice.net, look to the left on the home screen and click on the link below the telephone to leave me an up to 90-second voicemail.

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