On Purpose with Jay Shetty

This episode with Trisha Paytas was filmed on September 28th and set to release on October 28th

Trisha Paytas opens up like never before about the experiences that shaped her life, from childhood trauma and her complicated relationship with her father to stripping and the years she spent chasing fame and validation online. She reflects on the rise and fallout of Frenemies, the intense online backlash that followed, and how therapy, DBT, and meditation helped her rebuild her life. Trisha also shares how her marriage to Moses and becoming a mother have changed her perspective on success, happiness, and what truly matters. In her upcoming memoir, Crying on the Kitchen Floor, she reflects on her complicated relationship with fame, her mental health struggles, and the journey that brought her into a new era of healing.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

TRIGGER WARNING: Some of the content in this episode contains sensitive conversations covering suicide. Viewer discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is struggling, please call or text 988 (US & Canada), or call 116 123 (UK).

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

01:50 Warning Lies Ahead!

03:00 Finding Identity Through Motherhood

03:51 Blurry Childhood And Early Exposure

06:12 Seeking Her Father's Approval

08:20 Fears Of Raising Daughters

11:54 Growing Up Without Guidance & A Teacher’s Hurtful Comment

16:26 The Importance of A Mother's Protective Love

18:37 Invented Personas And Her First TV Appearance

21:23 Media's Romanticizing of Age-Gap Relationships

23:32 When A Teacher Crossed the Line

27:45 Advocating Against Power Imbalances

29:14 Moving To LA And Entering Sex Work

33:45 Fear Of Her Husband's Judgment

36:50 Past Lifetimes Vs. Present Spiritual Peace

38:41 From Sex Work To Internet Trolling

43:32 They Don’t Hate Me, They Hate The Persona

44:40 The Real-Life Cost of Your Online Persona

48:20 The First Time Trisha and Jay Met

49:30 Letting Go of Judgment Through Monk Training

52:44 Apologizing To Past Beefs

54:11 The Boy Who Cried Wolf And Police Wellness Checks

56:30 What Are The Vows of a Monk?

01:00:13 The Pitfalls Of Public Relationships

01:00:57 Balancing Public Content With Privacy

01:05:49 2019 Cancellation And Hitting Rock Bottom

01:09:41 Her BPD Diagnosis And DBT Therapy

01:11:40 Peak Success On The Frenemies Podcast

01:16:48 Frenemies Fallout, And The Unreleased Finale

01:19:32 Relentless Harassment And A Severe Psychotic Break

01:24:10 Meditation And Fertility Success

01:29:54 Perspective On The Ethan Klein Feud

01:35:20 Reflections For Her Children

01:36:44 Realizing Love Outweighs Fame And Money

01:39:08 Trisha On Final Five

Episode Resources:

Pre-order her book | Crying on the Kitchen Floor

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Communication expert Vinh Giang joins Jay to share practical tools from his first book, Before We Forget How to Connect, to help you become a more confident communicator and build deeper, more meaningful connections. Vinh explains how to become a better listener, avoid common communication mistakes, and speak so people actually pay attention. From sounding confident when you're nervous to speaking up in meetings, navigating difficult conversations, and making a great first impression, Vinh shares simple techniques to help you communicate more effectively and connect with people in every area of your life.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

00:25 Before We Forget How To Connect

01:52 The High-Low Buffalo Icebreaker

02:45 Sharing Personal Highs

05:15 Sharing Personal Lows

11:40 Sharing Personal Buffalos

13:40 Escaping Small Talk

16:10 Overcoming Self-Judgment

17:58 Sharing Wins Without Sounding Arrogant

19:50 Communication Beyond The Script

20:40 Gen Z's Communication Struggles

23:20 Last Word, Last Letter Game

27:20 The Four Modalities Of Listening

29:50 The Three Follow-Up Questions Rule

35:50 How Do You Make A Great First Impression?

40:10 Reading the Room, Not Formulas

44:10 Finding Your Unique Voice

49:00 Life As A Book: New Chapters

50:40 Building Executive Presence

53:20 Fix Your Resting Blank Face

58:30 Filming Yourself For Self-Awareness

01:02:20 When Your Mind Goes Blank

01:06:10 The Power Of The Pause

01:09:30 How Can You Sound Confident When You’re Nervous?

01:14:40 From Texting Chemistry to Real-Life Connection

01:18:40 How to Communicate Better During Arguments

01:20:20 Learning to Speak Up In Meetings

01:25:45 How to Join a Conversation Without Feeling Awkward

01:28:20 Leaving A Conversation Gracefully

01:31:4 Embracing Vulnerability

Episode Resources:

Book | https://vinhgiang.com/before-we-forget-how-to-connect

Website | https://vinhgiang.com/

YouTube | https://youtube.com/@askvinh

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/share/1CCPX1ChrP/?mibextid=wwXIfr

LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/vinhgiang
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Jay shares five unconventional mental exercises to break out of autopilot and strengthen parts of your mind you rarely use. From mapping out an imaginary place and sitting in silence without distractions to mirror gazing, reverse journaling, and spotting patterns in everyday life, he explores how these simple practices can sharpen your imagination, self-awareness, and attention. Jay explains why actively challenging your mind can be more powerful than passive learning, and how just 10 minutes a day can change the way you see and experience the world around you.

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Jay Shetty

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What I Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

00:25 The Cost Of Familiarity

02:23 Redefining Mental Growth

03:28 Lucid Mapping

05:30 Strengthening Your Imagination

08:16 Training Internal Awareness

09:38 Overcoming Overstimulation And Boredom

11:45 10-Minute Sensory Reduction

13:24 Becoming More Aware of Your Thoughts

14:53 Observation Before Correction

17:07 Reverse Journaling

17:47 Reverse To-Do Lists

21:55 Pattern Hunting And Training Attention

23:17 Recognizing Behavioral Patterns

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Jay takes four listener calls exploring the different ways we experience grief, from caring for a child with chronic illness and losing a close friendship to mourning a parent who's still alive and fearing the loss of someone you love. He shares practical ways to navigate uncertainty, make peace with relationships that have changed, let go of guilt, and stay present with the people you love instead of living in fear of losing them.

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Jay Shetty

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TRIGGER WARNING: Some of the content in this episode contains sensitive conversations covering suicide. Viewer discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is struggling, please call or text 988 (US & Canada), or call 116 123 (UK).

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What I Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

01:04 Finding Purpose Amidst Uncertainty

07:02 Navigating Inconsistent Friendships

09:30 The Radius Of Respect

15:40 How Do You Grieve Someone Who Is Still Alive?

16:47 Understanding Ambiguous Loss

21:48 Coping With Anticipatory Loss

23:37 Learning to Appreciate What You Have Before It's Gone
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Ezra Frech shares the mindset, discipline, and determination that have shaped his career and led him to win two Paralympic gold medals. From turning heartbreak in Tokyo into motivation to using visualization and meditation to perform under pressure, Ezra reveals how he prepares for the biggest moments of his career. He also opens up about competing on Dancing With the Stars, breaking down misconceptions about disability, and founding Angel City Sports to make adaptive sports more accessible to the next generation.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

01:20 "Pressure Doesn't Exist"

02:51 The Day Ezra Was Born

06:24 The 15-Hour Surgery At Age 3

11:15 The Kindergarten Letter

13:29 Learning To Handle The Stares

16:21 Overcoming Stigma And Bullying

23:18 Falling In Love With Sports

27:00 Changing Culture & Looking Ahead to LA 2028

31:09 Mentorship From Pau Gasol

33:56 A Message From Novak Djokovic

36:53 How Do You Define Confidence?

40:43 The Moment That Inspired His Paralympic Dream

44:35 Making Team USA At 14

48:41 How Running Blades Actually Work

52:09 Tokyo Heartbreak & "The Man In The Arena"

58:53 Visualizing Paris Gold Every Morning

01:04:50 Protecting His Good Leg

01:11:33 Winning Double Gold & The 20-Minute Rule

01:17:00 Meditation Under Pressure

01:20:34 A Lifelong Dream to Compete on Dancing With the Stars

01:24:14 Inside the Dancing With the Stars Family

01:27:19 Learning To Dance On A Blade

01:30:12 Pressure Is A Privilege

01:32:10 Making Adaptive Sports Mainstream

01:37:10 Ezra On Final 5

Episode Resources

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/ezrafrech/

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@ezrafrech

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/teamezra05/
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