In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) After a few relationships in my twenties, I have enjoyed ten years of being (voluntarily) single, but am now looking to meet someone new. I’m keen for my next relationship to have open, honest communication around sex. I know it’s easier to start as you mean to go on, so I’d like to ask when and how I can start to set this precedent.2) I'm a 42-year-old female and it has always taken me ages to orgasm, but once I've had an orgasm I'm so sensitized I can't be touched...anywhere. As a result I generally just fake it for my partner so he orgasms, and I always feel unsatisfied. Is this normal, or is there something I can do to desensitize myself?3) I’m 46 and back dating after a messy divorce. I was married for 20 years and am feeling a bit nervous about it all. My main concern is safe sex. I’m on the pill so am protected against pregnancy, but should I be using a condom? I didn’t like using them in my 20s but maybe they’ve changed now. What’s the etiquette? Do I bring some with me? Should I suggest it, or wait for him to? How likely is it to catch anything later in life? To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I love French kissing but my girlfriend does not. It's my favorite thing to do but she says that’s for teenagers or new relationships. How do I get her to see how fun it can be? Nothing seems to change her mind.2) My husband and I are in our thirties and have a child. I just recently found out that he had been cheating for the majority of our marriage—mostly with men he found on Grindr (a hook-up app for gay men). He claims he’s straight, not attracted to men, that this was only about the sex. He calls it an “itch”. He also mentioned he had been with men before we met, which he failed to share. We’re in therapy trying to save our marriage. I’m being told by him and therapists that ‘cheating is cheating, why does it matter if it’s with men or women?’ But I feel like I NEED to know who he is and part of him is his sexuality. Is this something straight men do? I am so confused and can’t explain why knowing the truth matters so much to me.3) My husband and I are bored with our sex life and quite like the idea of watching some porn together. Our question is: how do you actually do that? Do you watch it first and then have sex or have sex while you’re watching it? What’s a good place to start?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My new boyfriend told me I seem much wetter than other women he’s slept with. I took it as a compliment, but now he’s confessed he finds it difficult to orgasm because he can’t feel anything. Is there such a thing as being too wet for sex?2) What does it mean if a man doesn’t go down on you? I’ve met a guy I like but he hasn’t given me oral sex once and we’ve been together two months. I’ve tried pushing his head hopefully in that direction but he either doesn’t get the hint or ignores me. I’ve never had complaints from previous lovers about smelling bad, so I’m guessing this is his issue. It’s kind of a big deal for me though so I’m quite disappointed. How do I get him to take the hint?  3) My partner of four months recently revealed he has a kink. He likes to watch me masturbate to orgasm while I watch porn, while he ‘secretly’ watches me and masturbates himself. I don’t have an issue with this as we only do it occasionally. My problem is I told his secret to a friend. She told her partner who knows my partner and it all got back to him. He’s humiliated and says he will never trust me again. How do I deal with this?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I want to know if my partner is addicted to porn or whether this is normal for a man. We have sex twice a week but he says that isn’t enough for him, so he also masturbates to porn two or three times a week. We’re in our late 20s and have been together 2 years. I don’t ask what type of porn he watches, but do wonder which sex he enjoys more: sex with me or onscreen solo sex. Two or three porn sessions a week seems a lot when he’s getting sex from me as well. Or maybe that’s completely normal. Should I be worried?2) My girlfriend always worries about her weight and doesn’t like how she looks naked. I think she looks beautiful, but because she doesn’t feel confident she makes our physical relationship so difficult. How do I help her understand that I think she’s perfect when she doesn’t?3) I went years without having sex with anyone apart from myself with my vibrator. Now I have a partner to have sex with but as luck would have it, when I'm super close to orgasming I often get a sudden, severe, throbbing headache in the back of my head. It’s so bad, we have to stop having sex—just before I orgasm. I don't get them when I use my vibrator—I think because the orgasms are much less intense. Do you know anything about these 'sex headaches' and is there anything I can do to avoid them? To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) We are the couple that everyone either envies or pities. We have only ever had one sexual partner—each other. We’ve been very happily married for 15 years so far (we’re in our mid 30s) and sex is great. Well, I think so anyway. I do worry that my partner feels like he has missed out by not playing the field, being a man. I’ve asked him and he says he's perfectly happy and why would he want anyone else when I’m so sexy. He says all the right things, but I still get paranoid that he’s going to cheat or leave me because he didn’t get to sleep around before we met. What are your thoughts? 2) My partner of six years has a secret social media account where he’s been sexting other people and sending pictures and videos. I’m not sure where he’s met these women but I don’t think any have progressed into an in-person meet up or affair. I discovered the account a few weeks ago and can’t decide what to do about it. I don’t want to know if this has gone further because I know I couldn’t deal with it if it has. I absolutely adore him, we have young kids and a fantastic relationship. If this is all he’s up to, I’m thinking I might just leave him to it and say nothing. Is it any worse than him looking at porn? Or do you think it means he’s cheating in the flesh?3) I am a man who has been married for 32 years and have a good sex life with my wife. I am interested in trying new things like toys but every time I ask, she says that they are not for her. How can I convince her otherwise? What is the best way to introduce sex toys into the marriage?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.