Sex With Emily

What if the reason you keep having the same fight with your partner isn't that you don't love each other, it's that you're speaking completely different love languages? You may be giving love exactly the way you'd want to receive it, while your partner is waiting for something totally different.

In this throwback episode, I'm breaking down the five love languages, acts of service, gift giving, physical touch, quality time, and words of affirmation, and how understanding yours (and your partner's) can help you move through resentment, feel more connected, and bring more intimacy into your relationship. We also get into how each love language can show up sexually, what to do when yours don't match, and simple ways to make your partner actually feel the love you're already trying to give.

If you've ever wondered why your efforts don't seem to land, why the same relationship frustrations keep coming back, or how to create more love and better sex without overcomplicating it, this episode is for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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0:00 - What If Love Languages Could Lead to Better Sex?2:42 - The Five Love Languages Explained5:00 - Acts of Service in and Out of the Bedroom9:00 - Gift Giving (and the Sex Act That Falls Under It)13:00 - Physical Touch — Emily Gets Personal18:00 - When Your Partner Doesn't Share Your Love Language22:00 - Quality Time: Being Together vs. Being Present26:00 - Words of Affirmation (Yes, Dirty Talk Counts)28:00 - When You and Your Partner Speak Different Languages32:11 - Love Languages in Long Distance Relationships33:23 - How to Spot Someone's Love Language Without Asking35:18 - How Each Love Language Translates Into Sex37:00 - Caller #1: She Accidentally Shamed His Penis41:00 - Caller #2: Not Attracted to His Girlfriend Anymore
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Let's talk about why initiating sex in your relationship started feeling like a test… because somewhere along the way, that moment of reaching for your partner stopped feeling like closeness and started feeling like a pass-fail question hanging in the air. Am I about to get rejected? Am I going to disappoint them? And when initiation starts to feel that way, both people stop doing it. In this episode I'm giving you five concrete steps to change the whole dynamic, starting with one reframe that makes everything else possible.

We're talking about how to read the room before you even reach for your partner, what to say instead of do you want to have sex, how to bridge the gap when one of you has been thinking about it all day and the other just got done folding laundry, and the one response to a no that either builds or destroys trust over time.

If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, talked yourself out of initiating, or noticed that the affection in your relationship quietly disappeared along with the sex, this episode is for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides.

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Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply!

This episode is sponsored by:

Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 When Initiation Starts to Feel Like a Test

01:20 Meet Dr. Emily & Why Initiation Trips Couples Up

02:08 The Mindset Shift: Invitation, Not Contract

02:28 Reframing Initiation as an Invitation

03:40 The Five-Step Overview

03:55 Step 1: Time the Invitation

04:26 Step 2: Make It an Invitation, Not an Audition

05:34 Step 3: Close the Desire Gap

07:18 Step 4: Ditch the Yes-or-No Trap (Try the 1-10 Scale)

08:48 Step 5: Protect the No

09:59 The Bigger Conversation to Have Outside the Bedroom

10:31 Recap: Building Safety So Desire Can Grow

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Let's talk about the sex skills nobody teaches you and why most people are still waiting for their partner to figure it out instead of just saying it out loud… because that's exactly what today's callers are done doing. In this episode I'm taking live calls from people who are done leaving their pleasure up to chance. We've got a 27 year old who wants to learn how to squirt on her own without relying on anyone to do it for her, a couple who wants to bring others into their play but can't figure out how to find the right people, and a woman whose new partner flat out refused to try to make her orgasm. I promise that last one goes somewhere really good. If you have ever felt like you were the only one carrying the weight of your own pleasure, this episode will change that.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT:

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠

X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠

TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠

Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠

Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply!

This episode is sponsored by:

Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:19 Call 1: How Do I Learn to Squirt on My Own

04:30 Squirting vs Orgasm: Are They the Same Thing

06:30 What Actually Helps With Squirting

09:00 Teaching Yourself Before You Teach a Partner

11:30 Call 2: We Want to Open Things Up But Can't Find the Right People

14:00 How to Find Partners for Ethical Non-Monogamy

17:00 The Conversations to Have Before You Start

20:00 Call 3: He Refused to Try to Make Me Orgasm

23:00 What That Tells You About Someone Early On

26:00 Why Talking About Sex Early Saves You So Much Time

29:00 If You're Naked With Someone It's Time to Start Talking

31:00 What Sexually Healthy Actually Means
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If anal play sounds like something you'd have to grit your teeth through, I want to change your mind about one thing first: a painful first try isn't your body's final answer. It's usually a sign something was rushed, unprepared, or out of your control, not proof this isn't for you.

In this episode, I'm walking through my five-step, comfort-first framework for exploring anal: getting a real yes before anything starts, setting yourself up for success, warming your whole body up first, moving in layers instead of straight to penetration, and learning to actually read your body's feedback. I'm also busting a few myths along the way, including the one that penetration is the goal at all.

Pleasure, not performance. Let's get into it.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT:

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠

X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠

Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠

TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠

Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠

Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply!

This episode is sponsored by:

Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily

01:24 Why Your First Time May Have Hurt

02:08 The Five Step Framework (Meet Dr. Emily)

02:56 Anal Isn't All or Nothing

03:44 Your Nervous System Is the Real Sex Organ

04:07 The Two Rings of Muscle, Explained

04:49 Step 1: Start With a Real Yes

05:28 The Receiving Partner Is Always in Charge

06:00 Step 2: Set Yourself Up for Success (Hygiene)

06:41 Lube, Toys, and the Pre-Talk

07:17 Step 3: Warm Up Your Whole Body

08:22 Step 4: Move in Layers, Not Pressure

09:59 Step 5: Listen to Your Body and Talk About It

10:51 Busting the Biggest Anal Myths

11:11 Recap: The Five Steps to Try Anal Comfortably

11:58 Outro & Where to Find More
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Let's talk about what actually happens when real people finally stop holding back in the bedroom… because the best sex education doesn't always come from experts. Sometimes it comes from a husband who spent months asking for something his wife wasn't sure about, or a couple whose 20 year marriage took a very unexpected turn on a dance floor in Anchorage, or a woman who spent years unable to orgasm with a partner and finally got there in the last way she ever expected.

In this episode I'm reading three real listener success stories out loud, and I promise you will learn something from every single one of them.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

This episode is sponsored by:

Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:46 Story 1: The Pegging Journey

06:00 Why Receiving Changes Everything for Men

08:30 What Happened After She Said Yes

10:15 How One Conversation Transformed Their Whole Relationship

14:45 Story 2: The Threesome That Started on a Dance Floor

19:00 What Made It Work and What They Learned

22:00 Story 3: Her First Penetrative Orgasm

24:00 How She Finally Got There

25:18 What All Three Stories Have in Common
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