The Anxious Achiever

What if happiness isn’t something you feel, but something you learn? In this episode, I talk with Dr. Arthur Brooks about why anxious achievers often struggle with happiness, and how emotions are data we can use to build better lives. Arthur shares how our emotional “profiles” shape leadership, why anxiety is really unfocused fear, and how to turn late-night spirals into something actionable. We also dive into what’s broken about how we live today and why that’s making it harder to find meaning. Get ready to rethink happiness, understand your anxiety, and learn how to build a life that actually feels meaningful.

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 Why happiness doesn’t come naturally.

03:15 Why high achievers often choose “being special” over being happy.

06:00 How smartphones quietly drain your attention and fulfillment.

08:00 How the science of happiness supports therapy.

13:30 Why people who feel more negative emotions often have creative advantages.

18:00 The “mad scientist” profile and why many leaders fall into it.

24:00 How different emotional styles shape leadership strengths and blind spots.

28:00 Why struggle is required for satisfaction and confidence.

32:00 What’s the difference between joy and happiness?

34:30 Why most self-help advice doesn’t work.

41:00 What is anxiety?

44:45 A step-by-step tool to calm anxiety and think clearly.

49:15 How to talk about emotions at work without losing credibility.

52:30 The 3-part framework for building a meaningful life.

55:45 Why boredom is essential for meaning and creativity.

58:30 How constant distraction is blocking your ability to find meaning.

Resources + Links

Pre-order a copy of Arthur Brooks’ book, The Meaning of Your Life HERE

Get a copy of my book - The Anxious Achiever

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Is your anxiety something you need to eliminate or something you need to understand better? In this episode, I talk with psychologist Alice Boyes about the everyday patterns that can make anxiety worse. Alice shares why trying to control anxiety often backfires and how common traps like perfectionism, rumination, avoidance, and impulsive decision-making keep anxious high achievers stuck. We also break down ways to create distance from anxious thoughts, handle feedback without spiraling, and make better decisions. Tune in to learn how to work with your anxiety instead of constantly fighting it.

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 Why does trying to control anxiety make it worse?

03:00 How can overthinking trap you in decision paralysis?

06:45 How anxiety pushes people to rush decisions to escape uncertainty.

12:30 Tips to prevent overpreparing from taking over your life.

16:00 How to make feedback less threatening and more useful.

18:30 Why not all feedback is worth accepting.

21:30 Ways to stop shame spirals after mistakes.

27:00 Why becoming a “self-expert” on your anxiety helps you manage it.

30:15 A strategy for creating distance from anxious thoughts.

34:45 How email and social media can amplify anxiety traps.

39:00 Why you don’t need to be exceptional at everything.

Resources + Links

Get a copy of Alice Boyes’ book, The Anxiety Toolkit HERE

Learn more about Dr. Alice Boyes HERE

Get a copy of my book - The Anxious Achiever

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Are today’s college students really in a mental health crisis, or are you misunderstanding what it’s always been like to grow up? In this episode, I talk with Dr. Alexis Redding, a Harvard developmental psychologist and editor of Mental Health in College. Dr. Redding shares that feelings like anxiety, loneliness, and uncertainty are often normal parts of growing up, especially during major transitions like starting college or entering the workforce. We also talk about what has actually changed for young people, from rising college costs and financial stress to the complexity of modern career paths and what hasn’t changed at all. Tune in to discover how you can better support young people today.

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 The normal developmental experiences during young adulthood.

05:00 What motivated you to research the transition from high school to college?

08:30 Why normalizing struggles can help parents support their children.

13:30 Are rising mental health diagnoses actually a positive sign?

20:15 College isn’t always the “best 4 years of your life.”

23:00 Why the idea of the “typical college student” is outdated.

27:00 What’s the difference between “warm” and “cold” policies?

30:30 How does financial support improve student well-being?

41:00 Why students often believe they are the only ones feeling lonely.

46:00 The “tangle of pressures” shaping student life today.

52:00 The 3 types of mentors young people need.

55:30 Why young employees may feel pressure to succeed quickly.

01:00:00 How to respond when a young person says, “I feel lonely”.

Resources + Links

Get a copy of the book Mental Health in College: What Research Tells Us About Supporting Students by Alexis Redding HERE

Learn more about Dr. Alexis Redding and her work HERE

Get a copy of my book - The Anxious Achiever

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What if the anxiety you feel walking into a meeting, networking event, or conference isn’t a personal flaw, but social anxiety? In this episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen talks about the psychology behind social anxiety and why avoidance keeps it alive. She breaks down the belief at the core of social anxiety and tools to challenge anxious thoughts, manage shame, and build confidence even when anxiety is still present. Then, entrepreneur and former LinkedIn executive Arvind Rajan shares what it’s like to build a successful career while living with social anxiety. Tune in to learn how to manage social anxiety, build confidence, and show up fully.

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 Why social anxiety is the most common type of anxiety.

02:00 The 2 types of avoidance that keep social anxiety alive.

05:00 What’s the difference between generalized anxiety and social anxiety?

07:45 How social anxiety shows up in the workplace.

09:45 The strengths that often come with social anxiety.

14:00 How shame and fear of judgment affect leadership.

18:00 A framework for managing social anxiety.

22:45 When did you realize that you have social anxiety?

24:30 Why forcing yourself through anxiety doesn’t always work.

28:30 Why authenticity makes leaders more effective.

31:45 How leaders can build teams that support different personalities.

Resources + Links

Get Dr. Ellen Hendriksen’s book How to Be Yourself HERE

Get a copy of my book - The Anxious Achiever

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What if the skill that makes you a stronger leader is the same skill that protects free speech? In this episode, I’m joined by Greg Lukianoff, First Amendment attorney, to talk about emotional reasoning, why discomfort isn’t the same as danger, and what happens when we start treating speech as violence. Greg shares how his own battle with depression and suicidal thoughts led him to CBT and how learning to question his thoughts transformed both his mental health and his leadership. Get ready to rethink what makes us mentally strong and why protecting speech may also mean protecting our resilience.

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In this Episode, You Will Learn

00:00 How cognitive distortions shape modern mental health.

07:30 Why Gen X values free speech differently.

13:15 Why words can hurt and still must be protected.

17:45 When does harmful speech cross the line?

21:00 What we lose when speech is treated as violence.

27:00 What does the First Amendment actually protect?

32:00 The emotional cost of defending unpopular speech.

37:00 How depression reshaped Greg’s life and leadership.

41:30 Why CBT works for anxious achievers.

44:30 What is the connection between CBT and the mental health crisis among young people?

48:30 The 3 “great untruths” shaping modern anxiety.

51:45 Why great leaders stay intellectually humble.

55:00 Why meaningful work can stabilize mental health.

59:00 How to protect yourself from social media manipulation.

01:01:30 A CBT technique to challenge negative thoughts.

Resources + Links

Learn more about the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression (FIRE) HERE

Get your copy of The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff & Jonathan Haidt

Get a copy of my book - The Anxious Achiever

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