10% Happier with Dan Harris

The brain benefits of self-disclosure, the costs of staying silent, and how to know what to reveal and when.
Leslie John is the James E. Burke Professor of Business Administration at the Harvard Business School. Her new book is called Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing.
In this episode we talk about:
Why self-disclosure can feel risky but is often socially rewarding
The psychological and physiological costs of keeping secrets
How putting feelings into words can reduce rumination and anxiety
Why validation is often more helpful than advice
Why undersharing leads to missed opportunities in relationships, work, and life

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If you struggle with the terrifying reality that everything changes, this conversation is for you.
Bart van Melik is a meditation teacher, psychotherapist, and our Teacher of the Month for January. In this live session recorded on Zoom with subscribers to the 10% with Dan Harris app, Bart and Dan explore one of Bart's favorite teachings: "Keep calmly knowing change"—four words that supposedly distill all 84,000 of the Buddha's teachings.
We talk about:
Why attuning to the flow of things brings peace (even though change is terrifying)—and what the Buddha said on his deathbed about impermanence

How to introduce meditation to kids without making it seem difficult or boring 

The three dimensions of mindfulness: internal (your own mind), external (noticing other people's breath on the subway), and relational (the field we're all co-creating together)

Whether connecting through venting and complaining is harmless or something to examine more closely

"Useless speech" (sampappalāpa)—the Pali term for saying stuff that doesn't really matter, and why the urge is often just "look at me"

Why Bart is still on this path after all these years: community

Bart closes with a beautiful dedication about coming home to the body and appreciating that we show up in community.
These live sessions happen every week in the app 10% with Dan Harris, where you can meditate with Dan and guest teachers and ask questions in real time. Get the app at danharris.com—there's a free 14-day trial.
 
 
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Plus, making the mundane sacred, meditating in a cave, and lowering the ego walls.
Michael Pollan is the author of ten books, all of which were New York Times bestsellers. His latest book is A World Appears: A Journey Into Consciousness.
In this episode we talk about:
How to get over yourself
How to reduce rumination
How to lower the ego's walls
How to elevate mundane tasks
The value of what Zen practitioners call "don't know mind"
How to reclaim your attention from Big Tech (what Michael calls the "colonizers of consciousness")
The value of MDMA-assisted therapy
Michael's experiences meditating in a cave
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A financial psychology expert on the science of contentment.
 
Morgan Housel is the New York Times Bestselling author of The Psychology of Money and Same As Ever. He's a partner at The Collaborative Fund, serves on the board of directors at Markel and is host of The Morgan Housel Podcast. His new book is The Art of Spending Money: Simple Choices for a Richer Life. 


In this episode we talk about:
What "irrational" spending habits really tell us
How to manage money ambition with sanity 
How to use scarcity to your advantage
A useful equation for finding contentment
The key defense against envy 
How to minimize future regret
Why young people should check their bank accounts more often
How to talk to your kids about money
How to disconnect self-worth from financial worth 
And more
 
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The Psychology of Money | Morgan Housel

 
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How do you stay engaged without getting consumed? That's one of the central questions in this conversation between Dan and high-performance psychologist Dr. Michael Gervais. 
Together they explore: 
working at your edge in meditation, panic disorder, and professional life

why love might be the most important skill we can develop 

navigating rage in difficult political times

and the Ideal Competitive Mindset — a concept Dan found surprisingly useful. 

Originally recorded for Dr. Gervais' podcast, Finding Mastery, this one turned into a real back-and-forth.
 
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